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Tue 9 Dec, 2014 09:11 pm
I met this guy last September.
He is 21 (Austria) and I am 22 (Asia), both students in Canada.
We started out as friends and been dating for about a month.
I'm starting to fall hard when he suddenly told me he's going back to Austria for school at the beginning of next month.
We both agreed not to get into a relationship.
He said "it is really sad but too difficult for us to have a relationship now when you are in Canada and I will be in Austria. Are you thinking to do your internship in Austria?"
I have an internship to do this summer for 4 months anywhere. I said no...
However, yesterday we talked about relationships again.
I said since we are not committed to each other, are free to date or kiss others. He had a shocked face like he had no idea how I came up with what I said and told me we are committed to each other, he does not want me to kiss anybody.
I said, "we are not in a relationship, of course, you have no right to tell me who I date or kiss somebody else and neither do I..."
He was like "no, we do have a commitment and you are not allowed to kiss somebody else. Why would you kiss somebody when you have somebody you like?"
He said, "As we talked about, we both know that even though we get into a relationship now, it's going nowhere since he has 3 more years of school and don't even know when we will see each other next time.. a bit weird to be couples only for 3 weeks"
I get his point of view and I totally agree with it but.. I don't know.
In my opinion, the one who moves away can get over someone easier than the person who is left... He said I sound like he would just forget about me once he gets on a plane. He wants to skype and message or even letters. And we both agreed to tell each other if either of us got a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Yes, he likes me but not enough to try the distance thing. In the way, I understand. Because it is hard since we have no idea about our future.
I thought about stopping talking to him anymore because I am scared the more I spend time with him, it gets harder for me to let him go.
What would you do?
I'd tell him to hit the bricks. He wants you to wait for him, and he's not giving you much of a reason to do so.
@sarah2014,
Sarah - How do YOU feel about him?
If you are able to follow him, and choose not to, then that tells a lot about the relationship, on your part.
You are both very young, perhaps even too young to make such commitment. A long distance relationship would not work. You might want to just consider this a college fling.
It all depends on how YOU feel about him.
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