in love with friend

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Are you asking for advice? If so, could you tell to us more about your situacion? Normally, I would say 'go for it,' because friendship is the ultimate pre-requisite for a relationship to succeed; and, having gone through lots as friends, there is lots of chance that, as a unit, you'll be stronger; but, this is not true in some circumstances, which we need to hear to judge.

dròm_et_rêve , what are those circumstances? A transition love relationship after divorce, maybe?

Hey, Zirknitz; thanks for asking.

Well, one can't really tar all situations with the same brush; but transition to love after the breakdown of another relationship can sometimes be less than wise; because, often, the despondent partner is reliant on the other's pity. Sometimes it can work, but it depends on the history of the friends together. The duration of the friendship comes into account --falling in love with someone whom one's had as a friend for four years is very different than going off with an acquaintance--; but, most importantly, the tempraments and characters of the pair define whether it will be successful or not. But, we really can't judge solely on the cryptic word 'friend,' can we?

Yes, what does friend mean? I have some women friends with whom I would never have a relationship just because there is no attraction, I have also have friends with whom I would, but I cannot call it friendship.
Rather I would call it "dormant love", and it will depend on the situation if it is going to develop or not. Then if the relationship will be successfull in the long run, who know?

Pfui... I married a woman who wasn't a friend.

Then I married a woman who is a friend.

I'm happier now.

Those who say friends don't make for good relationships tend to be immature. If you only want relationships with people you aren't or can't be friends with, you're really missing something. Most of my experience comes from Wings, and to a lesser degree Cheers.

I agree with you Scoates; well, on everything apart from Wings' being more useful in terms of philosophic relationship advice than Cheers.

O well; Charlene's never going to come back, I'd say...

No, no, Drom, you misunderstood. Cheers is far more useful, but Wings is on twice in a row, so I get more exposure to it.

Ah. Then I completely agree with you; but Wings' being on twice in a row instead of Cheers is not acceptable, especially when your advice relies on it.

It's really doing my head in, now, that we don't know what Charlene's situation is. O, well.