Am I just friends with these two?

Forums: Relationships, Relationship Advice, Advice
Email this Topic • Print this Page

Ok there are two girls:

1) Joy: girl I work with at the pool as lifeguards

Why I think there's something more:
--------------------------------------------------------
1) said "love you" several time on a ongoing basis

2) She asked "if I was coming in to work" one time

3) she does try to catch my eye. (will wave at me from across the pool)

4) said "(MY FULL NAME) is bae" today

5) drew a smile face on my arm

Reason why I'm hesitating
--------------------------------------------------------
1) Don't dip your pen in the company's ink... (my boss told me his own experience about that)
++++++++++++++++++++++++++

SECOND girl: Dani-> been doing study session through this semester

Why I think there's something more:
--------------------------------------------------------
1) was the first one to suggest we meet up, sometimes I'd be the one to call her up and other times, she'd be the one to set it up.

2) always go for coffee after

3) I made a post (anonymously) bout asian guys interested in white girls and I liked it. Then her roomate tags Danielle in another comment saying "Danielle, That's you! Wink

" to which she replies to her roommates comment "I hate you."

4) blushes alot when she's around me

5) Gave her a teddy bear for her birthday and she was shocked

Reasons I'm hesitating
--------------------------------------------------------
1) She's white, I'm asian...whites don't usually like asians...

Which one of these two seem to like me? if any at all? honest answers!!

Topic Stats
Top Replies
Link to this Topic

Type: Question • Score: 3 • Views: 1,016 • Replies: 16

No top replies

You posted before on this same issue!

This is stuff you have to figure out.

1 Reply

@PUNKEY,

no...I posted about one of them...now it's two...

1 Reply

@mandophon,

Go with # 2 - she's not working with you!

In general: you seem very analytical and I suggest that you don't over think
emotional issues. You have nothing to lose, so go for it!!

1 Reply

@mandophon,

As we told you before, #2 is not interested in you.

__________

There's nothing going on with #1 that suggests interest either.

________

Are you a member of any groups or clubs where you could meet young women that might be appropriate to socialize with? do you have any female friends that you can talk to (not about these situations - just to talk) ?

0 Replies

@CalamityJane,

I disagree - going for something with a woman who is not interested is just going to lead to the end of the friendship, and he will lose his study buddy.

2 Replies

@ehBeth,

point is, this course is over. We only had a semester together. We don't have any classes together right now and perhaps ever!

There aren't going to be anymore study sessions so to speak. We're in different field of study too!

1 Reply

@ehBeth,

eBeth: how do we know #2 is not interested in him?

2 Replies

@CalamityJane,

you think she is?

it's impossible for me to remain objective really Razz

1 Reply

@mandophon,

I don't know if she is or not! It is for you to find out,
however, if she says NO - then back off!

0 Replies

Good grief, relax.

On the matter of asian, the first wedding I went to of classmates was asian/white. You seem paranoid on that.

To me you sound in a desperate search for somebody to, er, own, someone to be in love with you.
Try just dealing with real people for a while.

0 Replies

@CalamityJane,

CJ - the other thread which focused only on #2

0 Replies

@mandophon,

Point is - Danielle wasn't into you based on what you posted in the other thread.

You can certainly ask her out but if you're going to do that - just do it, don't hint around, just do it.

0 Replies

I decided to just ask them both out, they don't know each other and all. I'll update as it comes...

1 Reply

@mandophon,

That's a good idea. Just go for it.

1 Reply

@ehBeth,

I asked Joyce out :

and she said yes!

Now I wanted to ask you...is this an actual yes for a DATE, an actual yes for a HANGOUT (as one person told me was) or a I-don't-want-to-make-it-akward-so-when-he-texts-me-I'll-put-him-down-nicely yes?

This is what happened, I gave her a chem package to help her for her chem exam (I left a note that said: Good luck Joy! - Mando) after she asked a while back but I had no time until now to really get it. She was so exicited and was really happy. ANyways, she left from the front doors and I went through the back door and intercepted her outside. She saw me and said hey! and kinda smiled. It was freezing outside, it was snowing so I said to her. "Hey so I heard you had a trip till the 27th, do you want to go to the movies after?"

she said this "yes, anything to get out of the house!"

then I said "cool, what movie do you want to watch?"

She said: "I'm fine with whatever, you pick."

then I said "cool see ya!" and she said bye

then she came back about an hour later, when I was guarding the pool cause she forgot her swimsuit, she poked her head out of the office and screamed Hi to me

Where do I stand?

1 Reply

@mandophon,

mandophon wrote:

she said this "yes, anything to get out of the house!"

given this phrasing, sounds like a hang-out for now

but that has potential for a date in the future

a movie is a good start

congratulations!

0 Replies

Am I just friends with these two?

Related Topics

Quick Links

My Account

able2know