Is she interested? Or are we just friends?

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nothing you've posted suggests that she was interested, let alone is interested

gotta say - avoid the teddy bear thing - when I was in uni a long time ago, we considered those a bad sign - they're not for adults

the interchange between Dani and her roommate suggests that they're aware of your interest in Dani and it's not appreciated by her (she doesn't want anyone to take note of it)

ya the study sessions alone...either we're good friends or she is interested...the only thing is, we just started talking to one another so I doubt we were that close to be friends to start session to begin with right?

Got it, avoid fluffy kid stuff in the future!

really? I thought the conversation between Dani and her roommate suggests that she told her roommate that she likes someone whose asian and her roommate is teasing her about it.

Sorry, it's hard to remain objective when I'm in the center of it all you know?

wtf?

Being friendly with study pals is just that. It's not necessarily a friendship or an indication of interest.

What you've described doesn't sound like interest.

I read the exchange between Dani and her friend as not being positive for you. I could be wrong, but I suspect the teddy bear might be the reason she seems to be backing away carefully - likes you as a study pal but that's it.

what do you guys think? Idk, I mean, it seems weird that Danielle would spend so much time alone with me no?

In the beginning of these sessions, she asked if I wanted to meet up with her and another guy. When I met at our meeting place 10 mins early, she was already there. I started talking to her and I asked if the other guy was coming or not.

She said she'd text him then a few minutes later, said he wasn't coming. He never came or probably never knew Danielle and I were doing study sessions to begin with...

Should I still ask her out? I mean, worse comes to worse, it's a no...but you know, want to know what I'm getting into and some second opinions would be awesome!

YES! Ask her out. Then you will know if she wants your study-friendship to be anything more than that.

ya I plan to do so...but do you think we're just friends?

Ok, if you ask her out and she is not interested, it could screw up the study sessions. You said this has been going on for this semester, that's not a lot of time and maybe all she wants is a study buddy because it's helpful for her, and hopefully it's helpful to you as well.

I doubt that you being Asian is a minus or a plus. If she's attracted to you, that's all that matters. However, I think you are too hopeful in your attempt to read 'signals'. Nothing you've printed so far tells me anything more than just she's friendly. I wish I could tell you something more optimistic, but please tread carefully. You should ask yourself how you would feel about continuing the study sessions if she is not interested in you in a romantic way. Also, please remember that some people are just more friendly and outgoing. She may see you as a peer (which is what I think is happening), but that is actually a good thing. She sees you as a fellow scholar and it also means she values your company, but if you move too fast, it could get all awkward and screwed up.

Do you want to continue the study sessions with her?

so far three of us have commented that this is a study friendship

I think we understand you'd like it to be more but the reality is - sometimes a study friend is just that - a study friend.

If you're ok with the possibility of that ending, go ahead and ask her out.

Your first post already suggests that she doesn't want to got past a study friendship - so decide if you want to risk that ending.

no - seems like no big deal

Love is like a souffle. It's a metaphor. You watch it rise and think things are going well, then poof... suddenly it's flat and you have nothing.

I'm glad ehBeth caught that. The fact that she is studying with you does not mean she enjoys being alone with you. She seems to think its a study buddy situation. I've traveled with men on TDY's, sometimes one man and me. We had a job to do, we were not on a date, and it's ridiculous to think that I would need a chaperone to make sure the man didn't suddenly assume we were on a couples vacation. You and this young woman's job right now is to get an education. Perhaps you should only study with males. You are starting to sound very foolish about women. That you would even suggest it was weird that she studied with you alone, makes my creepy alarm go off. Good catch Beth.

wait now I'm creepy? Well it's like this, from what you (and other people have said), you guys are adults, ones with leading careers and probably have the someone right now.

As a first year university student, it raises flags as to the fact that she just wants to spend time with me...that's what alot of people my age say. Perhaps it looks juvienlie at your age because well ,you went through this right?

But that makes sense,I think I am making a bit more of a deal than I should be but I don't think it's creepy to think that it's something more...I'm not thinking about making sexual advances onto her or anything.

I have girl friends but they all go for advice to me about guys too and when I ask them bout this, they all have conflicting answers.

I don't like studying with my guy friends cause we ALWAYS end up fooling around and getting little work done. When I work with a girl like Danielle, who isn't a guy and isn't a girl friend of mine (least in my eyes), it forces me to work when I'm with her, because I want to show myself at the best position I can when I'm around her!

Well when I think about it, when you are leading a carreer, obviously if you're on a business trip and you're with a man, it means nothing, it's all business no? but I think I see a little bit in what you're getting at here

Yes, I'm much olde than you and I'm also a woman. This might be hard to believe, but older women remember what it was like to be young girls in college. I also remember confused but eager young men who got a little giddy when they were not sure what the limits should be. I think your best bet is to treat this girl with the respect you would like for yourself. The other males get silly in study groups???? All the more reason to maintain a healthy productive relationship with this girl. If she is interested in you, it will become apparent.

Now, a bit about being a women in your 30's and 40's traveling or working alone with male colleagues. At your age, it's probably hard to believe that women in that age group could be even remotely attractive to men. Unfortunately, not all men get the memo. I don't want you to assume that I was well treated because men knew I was married, it was very disheartening when a male colleague would try to see if we could work in some alone-alone
time during business trips. Even 40 year old women can get creeped out by a
colleague they respect if he steps over the line.

You are getting advice from other first year university students, it doesn't sound juvenile to me, it IS juvenile. I'm trying to help you not act like a love-sick boy by reading all sorts of motivation into every little thing she says or does. By the way, you are only 18 or 19, why do you think you need to be with somebody, you aren't seriously thinking you should be married or in a committed relationship are you? Get thru college first, met lots of different people. This young woman might be in your life for many years as either a friend, a colleague, but you can screw all that up in an instant if you behave like a love-sick puppy.

all very true. I'm not looking for a hookup. Otherwise, I'd jsut go to a club or somewhere to look for it and wouldn't be here asking for advice but throw all this out the window clean slate.

I asked Joyce out :
and she said yes!

Now I wanted to ask you...is this an actual yes for a DATE, an actual yes for a HANGOUT (as one person told me was) or a I-don't-want-to-make-it-akward-so-when-he-texts-me-I'll-put-him-down-nicely yes?

This is what happened, I gave her a chem package to help her for her chem exam (I left a note that said: Good luck Joy! - Mando) after she asked a while back but I had no time until now to really get it. She was so exicited and was really happy. ANyways, she left from the front doors and I went through the back door and intercepted her outside. She saw me and said hey! and kinda smiled. It was freezing outside, it was snowing so I said to her. "Hey so I heard you had a trip till the 27th, do you want to go to the movies after?"

she said this "yes, anything to get out of the house!"

then I said "cool, what movie do you want to watch?"

She said: "I'm fine with whatever, you pick."

then I said "cool see ya!" and she said bye

then she came back about an hour later, when I was guarding the pool cause she forgot her swimsuit, she poked her head out of the office and screamed Hi to me

Where do I stand?

Why are you asking us?
Do you plan to ask others for the rest of your life, thus spending it online?