@dilip,
Dilip, we do need some context; but
Thus I ask myself, should i have handled (dealt with, attended to, helped, etc) his mother or (instead?) looked after his father (also?) (?). But I decided instead to leave it /forget it (entirely abandon that family)
…..So my dear(,) (on second thought, for now, today, etc) let's concentrate on the cheeze (cheese?)