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Fri 14 Nov, 2014 05:11 pm
Hello.
I had a beautiful relationship with a really good guy in our early 20s that lasted two years. He really loved me but I screwed up. I was too selfish. I thought I was too young to commit to a lifetime relationship and broke his heart. Nevertheless we managed to remain really close friends. During the first few years after our breakup I had 2 other relationships, he knew about them but I understood he was not cool about meeting all together, that is he was still not over me. After my last relationship I began to realize that neither me was over him. Tried a few times to show him my purposes, he wanted to move on.. He met a girl, fell in love with her, she was extremely jealous about me and after a few hostile meetings with her she made him cut off any contact with me.
To make a long story short, we are now 3 years no contact with the guy. I have heard during the past months that he was on-off with the same girl. Our best common friend called me every now and then saying pls pls talk to him I want you two get back together. I decided to e-mail him a letter of apology. I accepted all responsibility about the first two years, I admitted I made a huge mistake breaking up with him because I still had feelings for him many years after. I told him that I expected nothing by writing that letter, not even a response if he did not want to respond. That I hoped he would forgive me someday and wished him well. He replied immediately. Apology accepted, that there even was no need to apologize. He does not blame me for anything, maybe he is a bit bitter about some things I did concerning the other girl, but "ok forget about the past, whats new?" We had a brief chat concerning the present. I did not ask about the girl, he neither mentioned her. He revealed me that he is in my city at present for a few days (now we live in different cities). I proposed to meet and he accepted. What do you see? Is there any chance to get back together? I strongly believe he is my special perfect one but can it be real?
@elliX,
Would you have apologized if you didn't think he might be on/off with his gf?
@ehBeth,
Ι have been thinking of apologizing 2 years now. I wrote down the letters on a piece of paper and then put them in a drawer because I did not want to upset him or evoke troubles or fightings of the couple because of me.
Too much water under the dam to apologize for ANYTHING now.
This is a clean slate. You don't know this guy and what he is today.
So start from scratch and see if you even like him. He's not the same guy as he was when you both were in your 20's, dear. Matter if fact, neither are you.
Sure it is possible. I have gotten back with old friends after many years of no contact and after the first little bit it is as if the break never happened. I see no reason things must be different for intimate relationship. Besides, as far as reasons for separation go " it was not you or my heart, I just was not ready to commit" is easy to come back from. There was for instance never a breaking of trust, there was never an I hate you moment.
Go see him without expectations and see what happens.
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