@oralloy,
Hello Oralloy,
I wrote neutrally because the concept can be applied to both sides with slightly different wording. I also wrote neutrally because it's something that can be applied to so many other 'conversational conflicts'.
Despite your disagreement - what I described is played out over and over again, in these forums, and in daily life (think political discussions), and right around the world.
I've noticed that you and I rarely see eye to eye on these forums. In relation to most of your reasoning for disagreeing - I think you either misconstrued, or missed the point of most of what I wrote. For example:
Quote:Evil people ignore legitimate points no matter what happens. It isn't the fault of those who stand against their evilness.
I don't buy into fault. There is contributing circumstances, and personal responsibility. In recognising that:
- people have particular traits
- and observing that particular conversations usually result in a particular pattern of behaviour because of those traits,
it's easy enough to forsee what
outcome certain contributing circumstances (ie use of certain words / phrases / accusations) will result in. That outcome doesn't remove personal responsibility...and... the person who is trying to get their message across would be silly to keep triggering a persons ingrained response to conflict that results in a negative outcome.
As examples: Negotiators, Police Negotiators, Pick Up artists, Charismatic Leaders, Salespeople...they all follow this rule...avoid language that results in the other person not hearing your message / getting angry / losing face etc. And on the other side, though not related to my last post - use language that facilitates them hearing or considering your message.
Who the worst hater is, is often a matter of perspective. For example, here - Izzy uses language full of hate...and likely, to Izzy's perspective, it is justified because of other posters 'message that is full of hate'...even if they aren't using hateful language itself. Hence what I said...both sides consider the other ignorant haters.