@Cfcjohn,
Cfcjohn wrote: i dont want to ruin my chance by telling her too soon after her break up, when is the ideal time?
relax
breathe
you need to step back from your avowals of love
ask her to go to a movie or something normal like that - do this as friends, not as potential boyfriend/girlfriend
if she has been in a serious, committed relationship, it will take her time to move on
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if you are in your early teens (16 or under), do not talk about love