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Mental Health Problem

 
 
Reply Wed 22 Oct, 2014 08:28 pm
Okay guys, I have had a problem my whole life and I think the best way to describe it is it is possibly ADD. But, in my current job I am not able to have that. Here is a list of things I feel like every day.

Very competitive(other students can vouch & so can my wife): I try to be first in everything

Jump-in/Add-to other people's conversations

Difficulty reading(someone says something or a distraction happens I have to reread the whole text)

Very poor concentration/focus

No motivation

When I try my hardest to not participate, I usually end up doing it anyway(I tried to act like another student by not participating as much but shortly after I raise my hand or blurt an answer)

Always thinking about everything going on around me(people & objects) and every possible thing that could happen to them. It drives me crazy how much I think about everything that I have to forcibly stop myself, especially at night when I am going to bed.

Always not paying attention to detail and even when I try, I always overlook things

Everybody says I am loud in class

I can sit down quietly & often times I will get tired/spacey quickly or start rambling on in my head

I have learned, by trying hard & it has become fairly easier to do, I always think before speaking, but since I have done this I over think and think of every single possible outcome of every thing I will say. Which makes me go crazy and I have to make myself stop thinking and clear my mind especially at night when I have to go to sleep.

I have become very optimistic because of the above^. I have made myself consider everything I think of.

I cannot master anything at all and try to do/be everything, but in the end I give up because of a lack of motivation because I can't sit there and learn it.

Learning litterally hurts me. I strain myself trying to sit there and study but I just cannot get anything to stick. When I am reading I do not retain anything.

I have very poor memory and I have to get people to repeat what they say 2 to 3 times at least.

Because of said symptoms I get depressed easily, but never show it. I build it up and when I finally say something to somebody about it they think I am making it up because I have always been trying to find out what is wrong with me. I have learned how to cope a little bit with this, but it really makes me upset because I feel like I am no good at anything and my current situation will not allow me to be diagnosed with something like add/adhd. I have had to deal with these problems since I could remember, but just coping with them knowing I wont be good at anything or have any talents just kills me inside. The only reason I am here still coping with this is because I dont want to let my wife & daughter down by losing my job. I just hope I can something legal that will correct me and I can deal with my disorder for the little time I have in my job. Does anyone have any tips? I go to bed early to try to fight my symptoms, but in the end, I still lose.
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jespah
 
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Reply Thu 23 Oct, 2014 06:30 am
@annonnymouss,
Go to a doctor and describe these symptoms, or just take a screenshot of the page and print it. Until you can get there, up your exercise and lower your caffeine intake. Will those help? Maybe. But they can't hurt.

NOTE: I am not a doctor. And anyone with any sense or responsibility would not be able to diagnose, treat, or cure you online.

Go to an in-person doctor.
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Ragman
 
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Reply Thu 23 Oct, 2014 06:54 am
@annonnymouss,
Listen to what Jespah is tell you. She's offering some very good advice. In my life, I've had some of those problems but I got help coping through some long-term counseling and behavior modification so as to avoid repeating behaviors that were causing destructive or toxic results.

FWIW, in my situation, I was diagnosed with ADD/ADHD. Some others I've known with similar descriptions were simply described as having learning disabilities but the degree of disability and their various treatments were often complex) Also, in my case, I changed my lifestyle (diet, exercise, sleep pattern), but I digress. This is a very difficult complex problem and should be left for medical prof to diagnose.

However, I'd never suggest that is your problem. If it were me, I would not wait any longer. The sooner you get help the sooner you can get on the right path.

I don't know what your psychological or medical problems are but what have the medical and/or psychiatric or psychologists have advised you? Please provide that info here as these details seem conspicuous in their absence. To not go to doctors with such problems would be against your best interests.

You owe it to yourself and family to get a complete physical and/or psychological work-up. Don't rely on the advice of strangers on the Internet to help with such chronic problems. You know this is not a small problem that will go away on its own. These sort of problems can be helped. There's no need to panic over this; however, you clearly need more prof help coping before things get worse.
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annonnymouss
 
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Reply Thu 23 Oct, 2014 10:35 am
The problem is that I have to wait until my job is over to go to a doctor. I will lose my job if I have it. I have never been to one because nobody would believe me when I had suggested it quite a few times. I am already at the point to where I use almost no caffeine at all because I have an extremely high tolerance to any kind of stimulants. Natural or not. Trust me on this as I have tried many many different kinds of stims. I also am in really good physical shape & exercise often. My brother was diagnosed with ADHD since he was little & I have had mine since I could remember. I just was the one that nobody thought of having it because I have learned how to control my actions really well.
Ragman
 
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Reply Thu 23 Oct, 2014 08:37 pm
@annonnymouss,
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The problem is that I have to wait until my job is over to go to a doctor. I will lose my job if I have it.

What type of work do you do? Why is it that you think you'll be fired from your job for having ADD/ADHD?

I strongly doubt that you could see a doctor and be fired for seeing one. You don't have to reveal to anyone why you choose to see a doctor. It is your right.
annonnymouss
 
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Reply Thu 23 Oct, 2014 08:40 pm
@Ragman,
Military.
Ragman
 
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Reply Thu 23 Oct, 2014 08:43 pm
@annonnymouss,
How can you be fired? You have not been derelict of duty, have you? I was in the military and i had ADD/ADHD. I never heard of anyone losing rank or having any difficulty as long as they did their job.
carloslebaron
 
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Reply Thu 23 Oct, 2014 10:06 pm
http://theaddvocates.com/featured/10-best-jobs-for-adults-with-adhd/
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jespah
 
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Reply Fri 24 Oct, 2014 05:31 am
@Ragman,
Beyond this, it doesn't even need to be framed as a visit to a doctor about ADHD (and physician-patient confidentiality would apply anyway) - just go to a doctor because you aren't sleeping well, or are having trouble concentrating, or are getting headaches. Any of these will likely move the medical complaint up the chain to a neurologist, which is the type of specialist you'd need to see for ADHD at least to start, anyway.

One thing about the military - they don't want you to not be physically fit. If there is an issue and it is interfering with your performance, they want it fixed so that you can perform at peak efficiency.
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dalehileman
 
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Reply Sat 25 Oct, 2014 09:49 am
@annonnymouss,
Anon I feel again compelled to remark that depression can be the result of too little or too much of some common blood fraction, caused by natural imbalance, meds, food, alky, etc
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