Really need help! Love is going down

How did you find out? Did she tell you? If she did, then walk away. It is over. Why would you want to stay with someone who loves someone else? Why would you even have to come to A2K to ask what to do?

How do you know this? Did she tell you? If she did, then I say again, walk away.

How do you know this? Did she tell you? If not, did it really take you 3 years to realize this? Again, if this is true, walk away. It is over.

Ok, so? I have women that I contact through FB, phone, text, but my wife is not concerned about it because she trusts me. The problem is not that she is in contact with him, but the problem is that you do not trust her based on finding out that she has been in love with him (supposedly) during all the time you two have been together. If you cannot trust her, it is over. Walk away.

Because you do not trust her. So I say again, walk away. It is over.

So what? None of us are perfect. Loving someone means overlooking the things we don't like about them and loving them for who they are, warts and all. But since you recognize that you can be selfish at times, it would behoove you to try to improve. Not for her sake, but for your sake. If this is the only thing wrong with you and she is using this to justify her not loving you, then walk away. It is over.

Does not matter at this point. You said earlier you can't believe her. You don't trust her. Walk away. It is over.

Well, you only have two choices here. Let her go or keep her. Since they are mutually exclusive, you will have to do one or the other. Of course, maybe she will take you off the hook for this decision and walk away herself in order to be with the other guy. In that case, I think you'll be hurting more.

Bottom line, if you don't trust her, the relationship is over. Move on. You could sit down and talk to her, but if you don't believe her or trust her, what good would that do?