@One Eyed Mind,
True, actually I don't really give a good god damn about other people's sex lives or whether they enjoy porn, or whips and chains. What I do like is my sex life and my husband still knows where all the bells and whistles are. That floats my boat, it seems to still float his. I've just never understood why some folks feel a need to pontificate about what they think is sexy, how often they have sex or how un-uptight their other mates have been. Your partner is uptight??? Maybe you didn't know how to ring their bell, or you're clumsy or unskilled. Maybe your lust interest finds you repulsive. I don't know what you need to do to be more fulfilled, Jesus Christ, call Dr. Ruth or that other relic, Hugh Hefner.
Go, be happy, be fulfilled if you can. Who cares? I don't think anybody here is worried about my pleasure, so why on God's green earth do you think anybody else cares about yours?