@ehBeth,
ehBeth, I did not mean for her to change to accept his behavior, but rather for her to change her behavior in order to modify his. Thus my examples. Does she give him time to unwind after work or does she somehow expect him to come home after a day at work and instantly "be there" for her? If she doesn't give him time, then why not do so and see if it leads to a better situation for her?
Do they, as a family, sit down to dinner together or do they grab a plate and plop down in front of the tv? If the latter, then try the former to see if that will spur him to give her the attention she wants and needs.
Anyway, I can see where the statement you quoted could be seen as my suggesting that she change herself, but I think my examples of what I meant by change would have made it clear the change I was suggesting was not for her to personally change but rather was for changes she could possibly implement to bring the outcome she desired.
Quote:I usually think you give decent advice but this is just crap.
I disagree, but I understand why you might think so. But I stand by the statement that he probably will not change on his own. She can either do nothing and continue to complain or she can do something (make a change) and hope he responds.
