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Am i paranoid

 
 
thearst
 
Reply Mon 30 Jun, 2014 02:11 pm
I been in a relationship with someone for 2yrs will be 3 in October.i been with him ever since a month after I had my son(not his biological son).the first couple of months he admits he wasn't faithful. After we had a son i started looking thru his phone(I know i was wrong)cause he was acting suspicious &going to clubs 3days out the week.it seems like everytime I see his phone I see naked pics of females he says he downloaded from porn or I'll see texts from females saved in his call log.when I ask who are they he says they not important.we talked about the pictures & I told him I didnt like it& he promised he wouldn't do it again.his # been changed 3 times& everytime he says he wouldn't text or save pics anymore.the other day I found his phone ontop of the cabinet.yes I went thru it & I seen the same thing he says he wouldn't do again.He don't help clean the house& act like he has no time for the kids.everytime I get mad he tries to bring up marriage.Am I being paranoid or what? Please help me figure this out..what should I do?
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luismtzzz
 
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Reply Mon 30 Jun, 2014 03:38 pm
@thearst,
No, you are not paranoid. He is obviously hidding something.

I had the experience with my wife. She was acting strange, i tried talking with her, and consantly denied cheating. She even get mad against me for even daring to accuse her of cheating. Sometimes i even feel as a bad person. She was quite a good actress.

Then she acted as a good wife a couple of days and then resume her strange activities. This continued for months. With me trying to talk, only making her angry. I finally get tired and did a small search and discovered her affair.

I is very difficult to move on. I now this by first hand. I hurts like hell. As i see this, there are two options: do nothing and learn to be happy with the relation as it is, or go on and investigate.

If you decide to stay the way things are there is nothing more to do then. Many people i know had done this.

If you decide to investigate yo have to be sure what you will do if you discover something bad. Will you be prepared?
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CoastalRat
 
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Reply Tue 1 Jul, 2014 10:11 am
@thearst,
The simple act of repeatedly checking out his phone indicates that you do not trust him. It does not matter at this point whether something is going on or not. You do not trust him. Successful relationships require the partners to trust each other.

I think your relationship is doomed.
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