Christinagome wrote:The loss would be: no relationship at all
No great loss, right? I'm with Phoenix, I get the feeling you're not telling us something here.
Christinagome wrote:He probably wont give me $$ anymore
Not true. You have a child support order and possibly also an order for separate maintenance (alimony).
If he stops paying, you go back to family court and have the judge make him pay. Most likely, if this guy is as irresponsible as you are indicating, the judge will require his paycheck to be garnished. What that means is that your support would be a payroll deduction (like taxes), and it would be deposited directly into your account.
Do not hesitate to exercise your legal rights in this matter. Your daughter's circumstances (whether you'll be able to afford food, clothes, books, medicines, etc. for her) depend upon this. It may be the difference between keeping a roof over your heads, or not. Don't worry about what he thinks if you haul him back to court in order to get him to pay. What his comfort level is is not really relevant when it comes to making sure your daughter has enough to eat. The judge will make sure that he (your ex) doesn't starve, either.
Christinagome wrote:HE probably wont see my daughter much
His loss. And, unfortunately, your daughter's, too, so you'll need to be extra-attentive. But he's a big boy. If he wants a relationship with your daughter (his daughter, too), he'll seek her out and, when your daughter is older, she may want to do the same. Make her available and don't badmouth him in front of her. Every child needs to feel that both of their parents are good people, because that relates directly to the child's sense of self-worth. If he comes around, great. If he doesn't, your daughter will know that you did not stand in the way and that the lack of a relationship between her and him is due to your ex-husband's foolishness, rather than any sort of animosity on your part.
Christinagome wrote:We have some sort of realtionship, that would end
So? You say you're in your mid-twenties. Think it's going to get any easier to meet men when you're in your thirties? Forties? Fifties? You need not plunge yourself into another relationship but if being with him is keeping you from seeking out someone who will treat you and your daughter with the kindness, respect and affection that you deserve, well, you're an adult. Isn't the choice an obvious one?
Christinagome wrote:The divorce was a mere formality on my part
I don't understand this part, although my guess is that you and he were not living together at the time. If that's the case, it's still an important formality to have gone through. After all, that's why you have a child support agreement, and that frees you if you meet someone else.
Best of luck to you and your daughter.