Is it wrong to realize that you don't want to have children?

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For father's day we had a family get together today.

One of my nephews (he's 7) came up to me out of nowhere and just slapped my ice tea out of my hand. I didn't say anything, but I gave him a REAL angry look and he started crying. Then his parents got in an argument with me later in the day. Basically it was about "How dare you make our angel cry! He has "issues", he didn't know better."

But the thing is that he did know better. Sometimes he just acts like a little ****.

I used to REALLY want to have kids, but now the more I see how delusional parents are the more I don't. Today was the nail in the coffin. Like, I think I still want kids, but now it's mostly just so I can have that holier than thou attitude that apparently comes with having a child. ...Just knowing that I'm somehow wiser than all the childless people (idiots!) in the world and knowing for fact that I gave birth to the baby Jesus; the infallible God-child who can do no wrong.

...And that's just not a good reason to want to have kid, right?

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@nononono,

One of the great HAPPINESSES of my life
is never having had any children. That is re-inforced
every time I read of a patricide. I know that no matter what happens,
I 'm safe from patricide.

David

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@OmSigDAVID,

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I 'm safe from patricide.

Haha! I hadn't even thought of that! Very Happy

I honestly think it would be cool as all hell to have a kid; I just don't want to become delusional and judgmental. From first hand experience that seems to be the predetermined after effect of becoming a parent.

But your own child killing you, well that's even scarier! LOL Laughing

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@nononono,

nononono wrote:

But your own child killing you,
well that's even scarier! LOL

He 's just giving Nature a helping hand,
accelerating his inheritance.

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It's not wrong not to want children.
What's wrong is having them anyway.

Stay childless.
Get the surgery.

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@George,

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It's not wrong not to want children.
What's wrong is having them anyway.

Stay childless.
Get the surgery.

Hahaha! These comments are making me laugh! Thank you! Very Happy

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@OmSigDAVID,

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He 's just giving Nature a helping hand,
accelerating his inheritance.

But i wouldn't have any money to give him/her! Hahahaha! Laughing

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@nononono,

Why should it be wrong to not want to become a parent?

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My wife says it makes her want to go 'blech' when female colleagues get all gooey eyed about babies, and talk rubbish about their 'biological clock'. She dearly loves her little niece, but we are both glad we don't have any children. There are plenty of breeders in the world. We don't feel we have any duty to reproduce.

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@jespah,

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Why should it be wrong to not want to become a parent?

Thank you! Very Happy

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@nononono,

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He 's just giving Nature a helping hand,
accelerating his inheritance.

nononono wrote:

But i wouldn't have any money to give him/her! Hahahaha!

U shud GET SOME! Its FUN!

David

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@nononono,

I think children are fine,
as long as thay are not genetically related to ME.

David

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Sociologically speaking, in my opinion, parenthood is just a "scene" one chooses to participate in or not. Since being a parent usually includes knowing other parents, due to a child's activities, it is just a "scene." No different from the bohemian art scene, biker scene, executive scene, etc.

However, any ancestors that wanted their DNA to proliferate through time might be upset with a childless couple? Perhaps, a childless couple should see "the ghost of parenthoods past" before they decide?

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@nononono,

It's fine not to want to be a parent, but is that what you've really come to realize? If you "REALLY want(ed) to have kids", how does seeing a few questionable parenting decisions change that? Not saying you are wrong in any way, but your conversion seems superficial and perhaps your original reasons for wanting children were equally poorly thought out.

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@Foofie,

Foofie wrote:

Sociologically speaking, in my opinion, parenthood is just a "scene" one chooses to participate in or not. Since being a parent usually includes knowing other parents, due to a child's activities, it is just a "scene." No different from the bohemian art scene, biker scene, executive scene, etc.

However, any ancestors that wanted their DNA to proliferate through time might be upset with a childless couple? Perhaps, a childless couple should see "the ghost of parenthoods past" before they decide?

Thay shud. Years ago, I heard the notion that humans
are vehicles for the perpetuation of human DNA.

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@engineer,

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It's fine not to want to be a parent, but is that what you've really come to realize? If you "REALLY want(ed) to have kids", how does seeing a few questionable parenting decisions change that? Not saying you are wrong in any way, but your conversion seems superficial and perhaps your original reasons for wanting children were equally poorly thought out.

It's not an overnight decision, yesterday was just the last straw.

Foofie,

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Sociologically speaking, in my opinion, parenthood is just a "scene" one chooses to participate in or not. Since being a parent usually includes knowing other parents, due to a child's activities, it is just a "scene."

That's what I don't want to happen to me. I'm afraid I'd become a fake "professional" parent. I think there's something chemically that happens to your brain when you have a kid that makes you delusional. You really believe that your child is perfect and can do no wrong. You truly believe that you're smarter than everyone else without a child. Oh, and you're also an instant martyr because no one else can relate to how difficult your life is. Rolling Eyes

Because of course life is just super easy if you don't have a child simply because of that fact!

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@OmSigDAVID,

hahaha. You can mark that one off the list!

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@contrex,

The crappy thing about this is the world would improve dramatically if those who were responsible enough to think seriously about it did procreate - however, we're left with the litters of those who never gave it a thought.

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@Lash,

Lash wrote:

hahaha. You can mark that one off the list!

Yes; thank u. (Confidentially, I also feel relatively safe
from being trampled by buffalos.)

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@nononono,

nononono wrote:

I think there's something chemically that happens to your brain when you have a kid that makes you delusional. You really believe that your child is perfect and can do no wrong. You truly believe that you're smarter than everyone else without a child. Oh, and you're also an instant martyr because no one else can relate to how difficult your life is. Because of course life is just super easy if you don't have a child simply because of that fact!

I think that is a bit of a generalisation. There are parents who have children and find they don't like them, and some who have a balanced view of them, and some who believe their child is a genius and can do no wrong. I think you have to accept that just as you have no duty to have children, you are also have no duty to give reasons for that to anybody, including yourself.

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