Alright so my name is Alison and I am 24. I have been dating this man, Christoph, for a year and a half now. He’s 33, and he’s a bail enforcement agent (basically a bounty hunter.) I was very taken aback when I first met him, I didn’t know they were actually a real thing, to be honest. He has seen a lot of scary people, been in a lot of scary situations, and he is still the most polite gentleman you will ever meet. He is charming, charismatic, and he treats me so well. He brings me home flowers for no reason, pulls out my chair for me, etc. He is wonderful. His job makes things difficult sometimes; he works a lot of long hours, and I worry about him because it is a very dangerous career. It’s worth it, though, because I love him more than anything.
Well, he just asked me to marry him, and of course, I said yes.
I live across the country from my family, so the only person who has met him is my mom when she came to visit 5 months ago, but my parents are more open-minded than my extended family. In a couple of weeks, we are going to visit them, and I want to tell them that we are engaged, but none of them have met Christoph, and I’m nervous about it. On one hand, he is very charming, and extremely polite, so I think he will have no problem getting their approval. On the other hand, I don’t know how well my family will take to his career.
My family is full of professional people in business suits, or rather uptight, conservative teachers. Even I myself am a teacher, but I like to think that I am less uptight. My point is, his job is very dangerous. He deals with a lot of not-so-nice people. I just don’t know how well my family will take to the whole chasing down criminals thing. He is also very intelligent; his career field kind of requires you to be. He knows he is intelligent, and while he is very humble (and willingly admits when he is wrong), he is also very matter-of-fact (his job has made him this way,) because, well, he knows when he’s right. I like his straightforwardness, but my family likes to sweep things under the rug, and jump around issues or heavier topics. Our family gatherings never venture beyond small talk. I don’t love it, but that is how they are, and they can be rather judgmental of people. I just really want them to like him. Any advice on the situation?