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Face Book Crush

 
 
Reply Wed 26 Mar, 2014 09:06 am
There is a guy on face book that I have had my eye on for some time now however ...there are a few things holding me back from pursuing an online conversation with him.
1. His sister is friends with the friends that I am (so I'm scared & nervous that he will be weirded out and tell his sister which will then tell friends although I've never personally met him)
2. I'm not really sure what to say other than "Hey" or "Your so and so's sister right?"
3. What if he is not who i thought?
4. Hypothetically thinking if we do chat and some day down the line we do end up meeting what if I'm not really into him???
5. I feel like I'm not letting fate take it's course..i feel like i would be forcing it in a way...
6. I've never actually met the guy in person!

I know I sound like a nervous and anxious wreck. Truthfully, some times i am however I'm open to reading other individual opinions and thoughts.

what do you think?
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tsarstepan
 
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Reply Wed 26 Mar, 2014 09:25 am
@LiveLoughLaugh24,
LiveLoughLaugh24 wrote:

1. His sister is friends with the friends that I am (so I'm scared & nervous that he will be weirded out and tell his sister which will then tell friends although I've never personally met him)

Well, then don't let your first interaction be a sext. You're not 12 years old. You should be old enough to know that type of gossip actually rarely happens. That takes too much effort about things they don't care that much about.

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2. I'm not really sure what to say other than "Hey" or "Your so and so's sister right?"

I expect this person is relatively active on Facebook. If he posts about a movie he went to or a TV show he likes or a news story that interested him, comment on it with a related opinion on the topic.

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3. What if he is not who i thought?

So? Either keep interacting with him or move on. What's the big deal about if he's the person you thought it might be. You yourself already established you never met him in real life.

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4. Hypothetically thinking if we do chat and some day down the line we do end up meeting what if I'm not really into him???

I'll bite my tongue here. Good grief. What if an asteroid came down an crushed a cat ... yadda yadda yadda. Your next question in this line of thinking is ..., "what if we marry for 45 years then he cheats on me, murders our four children, then runs away to become the self declared governor of the New Martian States of America?" You're overthinking it.

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5. I feel like I'm not letting fate take it's course..i feel like i would be forcing it in a way...

There's no such thing as fate. If there was such thing as fate then the second half of your sentence would be non-applicable in the first place.

Code:6. I've never actually met the guy in person!

404 Error. Concern not found. In this day and age, how is that applicable to anything? Establish an online relationship (friendship or above). Go on from there.
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Reply Wed 26 Mar, 2014 11:14 am
@LiveLoughLaugh24,
Waiting for fate to take its course is too chancy and vague. That won't get you far and probably won't satisfy you.

If you want to get to know this person , get rid of the text and FB fa├žade fairly soon or risk being in fantasyland. Take a chance..that he might be interested without being too obvious.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Wed 26 Mar, 2014 11:19 am
@LiveLoughLaugh24,
WARNING: FB is NOT real interaction.

He may say HI - he may get real funny and familiar with you - he may ignore you - he may blow you off - who knows??

There's no danger in saying hi to anyone on FB. It really means nothing.

What is REAL is really talking to people face to face.



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LiveLoughLaugh24
 
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Reply Fri 18 Apr, 2014 05:22 pm
@tsarstepan,
Very well said! Thank you for the advice. After reading your advice and suggestions I feel more invigorated ...refreshed..and ready to go on ....guess I was over thinking it too much and didn't realize it until i re read this post along with your response to it...
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