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Sun 16 Mar, 2014 08:09 pm
I recently told my boyfriend that I am bi sexual, other than him only one person knows this so coming out has been a very slow process for me. His response was very supportive, surprised but still very supportive. After talking awhile he told me even though we are in a committed relationship if the situation ever came up that he'd be ok with me being with another woman. He went on to say in his mind its not cheating, how ever if I slept with a guy it would be. I'm not sure how to feel about this, is this okay? Any input would be appreciated.
@KKay26,
I'm scratching my head. Ahh .....offhand I'd say ... no, it isn't OK. He's either not really being forthright with you or he isn't considering your bisexuality seriously. Do you consider your own bisexuality as serious or are you just
bi-curious?
@KKay26,
A common fantasy for some men is threesome.
Not saying good or bad.
@Ragman,
I've been with a woman before but, not in some time. I know what I am and that is bisexual, I've always been attracted to men and women. After having this conversation with him I felt like he was trying to show me he was open to it but, it kind of came across wrong. Just curious why do you think he's not being forthright with me?
@KKay26,
A gut feeling. Nothing substantial for my reason. Of course, you would know him best.
I'm not meaning to be insulting in any way, but do you know what I mean by bi-curious?
@Ragman,
I think I do but, just to make sure what do you mean? Also some more details about this situation the reason this topic had come up was because a friend of mine and her boyfriend are thinking about having her and another woman have sex while he watches and she had asked me if I'd be interested, I wasn't but I still told my boyfriend about the conversation and from there we talked about my bi sexuality. Just some more details to hopefully explain this better.
@KKay26,
Many Psychologists and behavioral experts have written about how human sexuality may have a pretty broad spectrum or continuum.
While you may find that want to experiment sexually, he may not feel threatened at all. It might also be that he doesn't find it as a serious threat to your long term relationship because he's confident. However, he might not be taking it too seriously because you haven't made it a regular practice either. As an example that couple and the friend's male partner may want to engage in voyeurism - yet, another color of the continuum that makes up the spectrum of human sexuality.
Bi-curious and Sexual orientation
"Bi-curious is a phenomena in which people of a heterosexual or homosexual identity who, while showing some curiosity for a relationship or sexual activity with a person of the sex they do not favor, distinguish themselves from the bisexual label. The term is sometimes used to describe a broad continuum of sexual orientation between heterosexuality and bisexuality.
The terms heteroflexible and homoflexible are also applied to bi-curiosity, though some authors distinguish heteroflexibility as lacking the "wish to experiment with ... sexuality" implied by the bi-curious label.
The term bi-curious implies that the individual has either no or limited homosexual experience in the case of heterosexual individuals or no or limited heterosexual experience in the case of homosexual people, but may continue to self-identify as bi-curious if they do not feel they have adequately explored these feelings, or if they do not wish to identify as bisexual."
These "open" relationships never work out.
IMO you are getting his permission to cheat on him.
It will backfire on you, believe me. Is that what you want? Are you willing to lose him over this sexual escapade?
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