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Thu 22 Apr, 2004 09:22 pm
Trust me....just trust me.
I know you're married.
I know you're happily married.
I know you're totally in love with your spouse
here it comes
it's coming now
uh oh...watch out...
have you ever thought about it? just once? has the attraction every been so great, so electric, so ridiculously there that you could not deny it? What did you do?
I've thought of it, but it's been in my dreams where I have some really exciting affair with a woman I've never met. I often wonder where these women I've never met can appear in my dreams.
Just like Jimmy Carter I have lusted in my heart. But that was when I was married. Now cheating is out of the question.
What constitutes cheating? Is it done without your partners knowledge? Is it still cheating if you talk about it first and your partner is ok with it? Well...
Sam
Re: NOT cheating is hard to do
onyxelle wrote:have you ever thought about it? just once? has the attraction every been so great, so electric, so ridiculously there that you could not deny it? What did you do?
Umm....yeah. 
Going through that right now. Don't want to hurt my spouse...don't even want to leave the marriage...it's a happy one. But so torn when desire for another is so strong. I'm posting at this late hour (1 a.m.) because I got off the phone with him a little while ago. It's just too hard to lay in bed next to a very special, loving, snoring and unknowing husband.
I think about it, but when I realize that I have to chose which one will be number one and which one will be number two, I realize how selfish it is.
But...good question from Sam on what constitutes cheating. I agree that it requires deception.
Yes, I've thought about it ... a number of times. At times it was like walking on egg shells, very dangerous .... but no, I didn't do it.
But here's the rub: HE did! And kept it secret for quite a while, too. Just goes to show, doesn't it?
My mouth is firmly shut on this topic
The company compound we live in is a regular little Payton Place. I can't even walk down the street without everyone knowing about it, let alone try a little hanky panky.
Oh yeah, i think about it all the time--i have a rich fantasy life with the subject. And it ain'ta gonna happen. My sweetiepie and i joke about it--she says i'd better go find someone (we are frequently separated). When we are together, i flirt constantly, and she expects nothing different from me. And it just ain'ta gonna happen.
I rather suspect my sweetiepie knows that, too . . .
I agree, doglover.
We can make promises about what we will do. We cannot make promises about what we will feel. Real life and real love can be complicated.
But depending on the relationship consumation itself might not be cheating. I think that's what Sam was getting at.
To "cheat" you need to betray an established trust. Some couples do not establish monogamy as the rule and in their cases having sex would not necessarily violate the trust.
Anywho, I've never been married but have never even had the inclination to cheat (only because I never enter a relationship unless I'm so smitten by the gal that I'd not be able to consider anyone else spoinge-worthy).
Faced temptation many a time -and walked away saying the crime aint worth the time.
CDK I agree with you trust is everything in a committed relationship. And once broken it is broke.
Good for you Husker.
Guatam you are a bad boy sometimes.
People who cheat are selfish and self centred and don't deserve the partner's they've got.
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