Guys not wanting to be controlled

great advice!
Absolutely. I am looking for a healthy relationship. I do want to ask him but he thinks I ask too many questions. I'm still going to ask any way but I'm not sure what is the best and most appropriate way to ask...

Yes, that is true however I have learned from experience that there are men who like to be in control but also like a "tough" and some what controlling woman as well...

Not true...what if the woman doesn't like to have her "mind" controlled?

The actor Oliver Reed was a tough hellraiser and once said-
"Sure I knock my women around but they don't complain",
so obviously some women like having a strong man in their life..

not wanting to be controlled = not being told what to do all the time.
He's given you fair warning.

A woman must love her man. By appreciating him for who he is. Respecting him and his wishes, his desires. Doing anything, everything he wants. And so much more.

Some times but it really depends on the situation. Overall, I like to be the one in charge of the relationship. However, I am willing to compromise on some things

I see were you are coming from. Being able to have control over a man during intercourse brings much satisfaction to me as well. However the type of control that I am referring to is more of like the lady in charge in a relationship...the best and most simplest way that i can describe it is by describing the type of men I naturally get along with best.....the beta with some alpha tendencies...in other words he's gotta submit but not be too submissive.

Sounds like you like to be more of the alpha in bed ?

Therefore you should be able to understand what he means by "not wanting to be controlled"... He prefers either to be in charge, or a more equal relationship.