@wthiwwm,
What i would like is to get points of view is was i wrong for letting this go on the way i did? I mean she could still decide to end the relationship regardless of whether i improve or not. In previous arguments with her i said that if we ended then i would leave the state altogether because it would hurt me too much to be around her cuz i know that i will always take her back. Now i know it would be wrong because i would be leaving my two boys and I LOVE THE VERY MUCH AND NEVER WANT TO HURT THEM. However if i moved i would do whatever i can to send any support they needed, and also i would be more than willing to have them visit and see me anytime they wanted too.
I know that if i stay in a distance that i can be at her beck amd call i would respond without thinking about it. And she knows but still says that leaving like this still very selfish.
I have an opportunity to start over with a new career. Which i would need to leave the state possibly.
And even though my side of the family is in the state as she is they are worse still because that entire family is so disfunctional it isnt a laughing matter and i know i have to remove all of these negative influences.
There is many things wrong from my past that sometimes i feel like the only way to move on is to remove everything that is os has had impacted me to be the way i was before i started getiting the help i needed amd even my therapist was surprised at how fast i was able to figure out the root amd cause of my issues.
My therapist says that for the rest of my life i have to treat my disorder as if it is an addiction like an alcoholic does.
So should i bat down the hatches and continue to ride this out, which is whaf i really want to do, or do i let her get what she wanted several months ago?
My pastor said that i take everything she does or says cuz that is what i sowed into my marriage the last ten years and never let god into my life amd this what i am supposed reap what ive done and still try sow a new field with her while this goes on and eventually finally have a better marriage going forward?