@anonymously99stwin,
Well, that depends doesn't it? I mean... You wish for her to be submissive because to you that shows love. Off course, I'm all for equality and working together.. But, have you ever thought that perhaps, knowing you control her thoughts on how she is "expected" to behave that she in fact, therefore, just lays there .... It's not like she gets to make her own decisions on how she prefers to bond with you... We are equal in this world... love is about togetherness not control.