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Thu 15 Apr, 2004 06:12 pm
My best friend in the world was adopted as a baby. He knows where he was born, the exact time he was born, but doesn't know who his "real" mom is... and wants too.
He has contemplated doing this search most of his adult life, understands he might be opening Pandora's box, but hell, at 34 I'm sure he can handle whatever he learns.
It seems to me; if for no other reason than medical history; some records must have been kept. Has anyone been through this? Is it easy or hard? Is there a reputable service who'll do it for you? Do you at least know where to start? Any and all help will be greatly appreciated?
(The only place he's checked out so far wanted $800 up front and guaranteed nothing, which sounded like a scam to me.)
Records are very hard to get if one party, in the case of the mother, doesn't want them released.
Different states and provinces have different laws and most of them are not friendly to the adoptee.
My best friend hired a person, an investigator to find her mother. She found out she had a sister who was also given up. Unfortunatly, it was not a warm and fuzzy situation and now she doesn't have anything to do with either family member. But at least she got some answers to some burning questions. I wish your friend luck, he'll need it
Thank you for your comments and luck wishes darling. I doubt he'll learn anything he really wants to know, but I can understand why he wants to.
O'Bill, some time ago on Abuzz there was a member who was looking for her birth mother as well as her birth daughter. She found both, her daughter very recently - and the connection turned out very well, in spite of initial anxiety on both sides.
As I recall from reading about her searches, there are a number of good online resources where people who are looking for birth parents/children can help each other search. Most of them will only make the connection if both sides are willing to make the connection. In the above case, our friend discovered that she and her daughter had been looking for each other.
Occum Bill, I know a woman who has successfully found her birth daughter. I'll try to find some sites for you.
Whoa, this may be weird, but do you think there is a chance I'm his mom?
Milwaukee, June 2nd, 1969, what do say SCoats?
SCoates- aren't you sensitive!
Yikes, wouldn't that be weird?
Couldn't be me. I've never been out of the united states, I was born in 81, and I didn't even know there were two days in june.
no hits on that birthdate and state at the adoption.com reunion registry but they're not the only group.
they have quite a few links
how to find your birth family
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all of that ^^^ stuff has links to resources attached at the site i linked
Thanks for the site ehBeth, I'll pass it on. Pity there wasn't a posting waiting for him already. I've dug up a few sites myself, but no matches. I'll keep trying.
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