Friendly wife

Hello all, dealing with something that has my emotions and state of mind in a fog. Don't know if I'm being childish or should be concerned. All I know is I don't feel good at all.

I found my wife of 10 years with some instant messages to a Dr of the family. Nothing to the degree of an affair but flirting in the late hours of the night while I was sleeping and her tipsy. Content included how he and his looks made her feel, that she had this crush on him, pics were hot, etc.

I found these and was quite upset of her feelings for this man. By the way he is also married with a family if that means any thing. I was upset and she knew this. I explained to her that its ok to have crushes and think other people are attractive that you deal with on a day to day, month to month basis is alright but in my eyes explaining these things in quiet messaging is hurtful and a sense of emotional cheating.

So she agreed on social media sites to converse but no more instant messaging where all is hidden. Recently, they had a conversation (instant messaging ) over a suitable matter but when I read parts of it that stated sorry I didn't see you and give you a hug on last visit and end with "love u kiddo" my feelings started racing again. Earlier conversation was months before this. My wife ended the conversation with Me too!. As in, you love him too?? Excuse me?? Her part of me too! was deleted after a day or two.

Haven't spoken to her about it. Now I have this sickly feeling in my gut once again. Now, I feel disgusted thinking of her giving this man a hug pressing her body up against him when they come in contact.

Are my feelings warranted? Am I the over jealous husband? Which I will admit, I do get jealous over things. Should this concern me? Is she disrespecting our marriage bond? I don't know. What I do know, all of this makes me feel bad and I don't like the feeling. Thanks for taking the time.