Cheated and horrified

Why did you tell him? And why are you still affianced after 8 years? And it's 'devastated'.

He might actually leave you so you won't be able to make it up to him.

sorry...it seems callous...and cold...but you can't! Once trust is broken like that, it's gone. For most people, they'll not allow the trust to recover. Learn your hard life lesson and in future relationships, don't do it ever again.

The only one who can answer this question is your fiance.

Its unwise for anyone to trust anyone.
Trust shud be kept to a minimum.

Ask him/her to forgive you. What else?

Pemerson! We/I've missed you!!!!

Eight years of being a fiance? is 88 your birth year? not my business, but if so, you've been betrothed since you were seventeen or so? Have neither of you had a relationship with anyone else? Are you really sure you want to spend the rest of your life with him? This might not have been a mistake, you might have underlying feelings of being smothered by the whole thing. Just a guess, based on another guess, so I can easily be wrong about this.

It takes so much time, energy and sometimes money to cheat . . . so, how is it that you were able to do it?

It all shows that you should not be "engaged," especially if this has been for a very long time starting at a young age.

May I ask your ages?

Hi Osso, I've missed you too. I wrote a topic expaining why I've beeen "away"for the past 2 years. Wonder why it never showed up. Hey!! (into the ether) I hate to write things again!!