Working opposite shifts, kids and no time for us?

Can you work in the afternoons? That might be one solution.

And talk to him. Explain - you miss him. It's hard being, in many ways, a single parent. Plus the very act of being pregnant is kinda tiring. He needs to help out a bit, and that does not mean he works even more hours. You love his kid, too, and don't mind a change in visitation if that will get him home more and in your life more.

Because, really, you shouldn't. It's splitting hairs if it's for his kid or for you if the result is the same, yes?

....".then up & strait to work 2-3 hours early"

This sounds like he's choosing to go early, as opposed to spending time with you at home. Sounds like you two need to communicate. Mediation of some kind if necessary, as there are kids at stake.

working afternoons isn't an option. I'm responsible to care for the kids & the house. All of the duties of a house-wife, but I work too LOL. I just don't see why he isn't willing to make the changes for the family as a whole & for the sake of our marriage. I've always been a single parent & being married hasn't changed that. Now I have that much more to handle on my own, another kid, husband, bigger house & one on the way. Just feel like I'm at my breaking point.

Try to figure out what you can let go, or delegate. Can you cook dinner in a slow cooker, get a babysitter sometimes, or have him wash the dog? Do the baseboards have to be dusted every other day, or can they wait two days? Can he take 90% of the responsibility for his own child?

Know what I mean?

And in the meantime, still, this is a communication issue. It definitely sounds as if you have gotten the short end of the stick. Your life has not improved with this marriage; instead, it's worsened. You need to explain that you are tired. And that the meals don't magically appear on the table. The children aren't bathed by an intruder who comes into the house for the sole purpose of putting them to bed. And clean clothes don't leap into his drawers.

You need help, you need it yesterday and no matter how much appreciation he is or isn't showing, that doesn't get the car serviced or the bills paid.

Recognize that this might just spur him to get you a housekeeper or a sitter, rather than help out.