@PUNKEY,
Thanks for your prompt reply. Yes, he is still the weakest link. Easily manipulated as well. He is also very insecure and he doesn't feel great about himself despite the fact that he has a great paying job, a very nice looking body, handsome face, well endowed, etc... all the ingredients a man you may think would need to feel good about himself and... he is also very intelligent, yet his personality doesn't match. I have thought that it is because he was abused as a child and he has blanked it out. Also his father is very dominant and his mother is a floor mat! She is very submissive, his father is chauvinist, the kind that "the woman stays at home and the man works". My husband has some of those tendencies to be chauvinistic but as I am a very strong person (by the way, that is who he is attracted to) just find it funny and hilarious and laugh about it. He can't try that with me anyway. I am independent, self assured, very high self esteem and that also seems to bother him a lot, yet, he is attracted to me for it!? really weird! He also has problems with intimacy and he is not confident in the bedroom at all. All to which gets me to the conclusion that he must have been abused as a child. I have suspected his father but he has no memories of it and barely remember details of his sister's situation...