In love with my exgirlfriend,is no contact for the best now?

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we split up 11 months back,had been together for a year.
we met up at least once a month since the break up to go cinema,theatre and for coffees. we chatted about how our work was goin etc. we wud only meet up by ourselves.

i poured my heart out to my exgirlfriend last week. I told her i loved her and only wanted to be with her. She began to cry and told me another ex (from 4 years back) was looking to be with her again. She told me she needed time to think as she wasnt ready. i said that was ok that if i didnt hear from her, that i wud know.
she apoligised for sleeping with me 3 weeks ago.
(It felt to me like it wasnt a '****' it was tender. she stayed in bed with me till lunchtime, holding each other and kissing) It really mixed me up.

She text me 2 days after i spilled my guts to her. and said she had gone to dinner with the other ex again and decided to try going out with him for a month to see how it goes.

she said she didnt want to leave me hanging on. told me i was brave to drive to her town and put myself out there. she said she loved me but only in a 'friendship' 'companionship' way. why did she sleep with me??
also asked questions about my day as if i was gona be fine with answering. like she expected id be ok with friends....

i text her back and said, 'id miss her. and to take care of herself.'
I have not contacted her since. (over 3 weeks ago now)
i unfriended her on fb and deleted her number.

funny thing is i wud take her back in a shot

i guess she understands that im not contacting her.?
its silly but i wonder if shes is angry at me now?
or is she just wrapped up in other ex newness.?

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@DownNtOut,

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or is she just wrapped up in other ex newness.?

I think you answered your own question

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@DownNtOut,

Why did you break up in the first place? Who ended it? If it was you who ended it, then she may be scared that you'd do it to her again, and not want to get too emotionally involved with you. If she ended it, then it sounds as if she likes you a lot, but can't feel stronger emotion for you.

If she cared enough for you, then she wouldn't be with someone else. She obviously feels comfortable with you - sufficiently so that she slept with you, and enjoyed your company, but after going out with you for a year, that isn't unusual.

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@vonny,

i broke up with her in the first place. i was goin trough emotional stuff from childhood and did the worst thing (shut her out)
we still met up, and she still wants to be friends now after me telling her how i feel.
i dont think im able to be a close friend right now as it wud killme to see her with the other ex,who lives in same town as her.

ughhhh

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@DownNtOut,

it sounds like she is not that into you, like she spent time with you because she is too lazy to go meet new people. the smart man picks women who want him bad.

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@hawkeye10,

"the smart man picks women who want him bad.

Yup - but the woman seems to want the chase.

It's a wonder that we even get together.

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