Eoe--
Knowing your interest, I think that the young man and his mother were thoughtless in not telling you about the Mooreshouse admission.
Judging from what you mention of your aunt, your brother (and your dead mother) your family tradition doesn't include suffering in silence.
Keep in mind, I'm a wimp. I loathe conflict. Obviously this personality trait colors my advice.
For the moment, do nothing. This will be difficult because you have both your outraged feelings and your family traditions of slugging it out urging you to ASSERT YOURSELF and EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS.
You write:
Quote:... I could get real ugly about this because you know they will be depending upon me a great deal with him here, to feed him, keep an eye on him, and of course his parents will be here often, staying here at my home more than likely.
If this is true; if they are counting on your watchful eye and your unflagging hospitality, they will have to come to you.
Also, please consider that while Morehouse is your College of Choice for your godson, Morehouse may be his ace in the hole. He may prefer one of the other four colleges. One of the other four colleges may offer him more financial help than Morehouse.
If this is the case and you start the Mother of All Family Brawls about being out of the loop, he may go elsewhere. All that ugly feeling would be for nothing.
Polish your nails--even file your nails to scratchy points, but keep your cool. You are going to demonstrate how a woman with her godson's best interests in mind acts.
You can't scream and rage while you're on the Moral High Ground, but there are other compensations.
Hold your dominion.