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Is there a polite way to ask someone to stop laughing?

 
 
cicerone imposter
 
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Reply Mon 12 Aug, 2013 04:42 pm
@mismi,
One hand clapping. Mr. Green
chai2
 
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Reply Mon 12 Aug, 2013 04:46 pm
@mismi,
mismi wrote:


As someone who loves to laugh and laughs a lot and just recently having realized it is not as beautiful a laugh as I once thought.....these are my thoughts.

I wondered why no one ever told me it was bad -


Or.....

maybe they don't think you're laugh is "bad"

Or......(and hopefully this)

They can see you love to laugh and laugh and only hear the sound of your joy.
chai2
 
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Reply Mon 12 Aug, 2013 04:50 pm
@chai2,
BTW mismi, I totally do not get worrying about what your laugh sounds like, if when you're laughing means you're happy, or somethings funny.

That's right up there with worrying if your left eyebrow is 1/4 of a mm higher than your right one.

Don't you know that what your laugh sounds like is what endears you to those that love you best?

Of course you know that.
mismi
 
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Reply Mon 12 Aug, 2013 05:49 pm
@chai2,
I actually don't think I worry about it much at all. I think Linkat's posting this probably got me to thinking about it more than I would normally.

It is kind of interesting that this was posted so soon after my viewing the video that I took of my nephew twerking in a restaurant. I sounded like a fool. It was flipping hilarious. He is already awkward and seeing him doing THAT dance of all things in a restaurant of all places - well - it put me over the edge. Of course we are always harder on ourselves than we are on other people. And yes - it was probably annoying to the people around us. I totally get that. It's not like we act like that all the time....and we were on the veranda. If that helps.

I am hoping my laugh is not as bad to others as it is to me. Or like you said that they love me and find it endearing...or something like that.

But like I said - it ain't going to change much. I enjoy it too much to change it. I kind of live in the moment - mostly - anyway.
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mismi
 
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Reply Mon 12 Aug, 2013 05:53 pm
@cicerone imposter,
Quote:
One hand clapping.


That would be a silent laugh I suppose...
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Linkat
 
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Reply Tue 13 Aug, 2013 07:04 am
@chai2,
I would never leave a note like that - seriously her laugh is annoying, but then again there is alot of distracting noise when you work in such conditions as basically being gerbil in a habtitrat cage - why I do have my ear buds so when it gets bad I can pop them on and be in my happy place.

Just thought good I am moving from the one person who persists in having conference calls in an open area and from the other side a group that must have no work because they are always gathering and chatting right outside my space.

Doesn't matter where you sit when they have such inhumane conditions to work in. And guess what we are going to be moving next year to a new building - a GREEN building with GREEN seating.

You know what that means - yes we show the display - the lowest peions sit basically on a long table with one person next to them all down like an assembly line.

Me, being a bit higher - only have to sit with a person directly across from me - sorta picture elementary school with your desk touching the desk in front of you - but we do get a small divider.

I guess I will be working more days from home.
Mame
 
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Reply Tue 13 Aug, 2013 08:04 am
Sometimes we just have to suck **** up. I work with a woman who has the most irritatingly high and tiny voice. Really, it sounds like nails on a blackboard to me and I wince inside every time she talks. Can't ask her not to talk - it's part of her job and she can't help her voice. Thankfully I only work with her 3.5 hours a week, so I do my best to tune her out.
mismi
 
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Reply Tue 13 Aug, 2013 08:04 am
@Linkat,
eGADS Linkat! That sounds heinous! I am out of the corporate world now and back into the educational one - so I am so behind on what the new things are - but a Green office sounds like the worst possible working conditions. Don't know how anyone gets their work done like that.

In all seriousness - I do hope you find a way to deal with the annoyances that suits you and keeps peace in the office. Smile
Linkat
 
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Reply Tue 13 Aug, 2013 09:51 am
@mismi,
Yes - I find complaining and whining here helps as of course the ear buds.

I am sure I have my own equally annoying habits that inflict upon others as well. Just don't know them - other than I have ruled out my laugh; I don't cut my nails at work; perhaps it is my smirk and grumbling that annoys others.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Tue 13 Aug, 2013 03:51 pm
@Linkat,
Linkat wrote:

You know what that means - yes we show the display - the lowest peions sit basically on a long table with one person next to them all down like an assembly line.


we've just started that at our office - we call it the sushi bar

I'm lucky - I have my own desk - and my nice new (as of this afternoon) desk seems to have been set up for a taller person. The desktop meets me nicely just below my armpits, so I'm typing level with my boobs. I know I'm going to enjoy that. Next to me in her halfcube is J - who is tall and has to recline in her chair to get close enough to her desk to use the keyboard.

oh happy days
ossobuco
 
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Reply Tue 13 Aug, 2013 04:26 pm
@Mame,
I relate to this. We had a woman who lived a bunch of miles away who liked our gallery, that I could hardly stand near at first. I called her Squeaky to myself. She liked us individually and as a gallery. I tempered my behavior first because she showed up to see our place, mixed with regular courtesy, and, after that, she was interesting and interested, and mostly because she didn't squeak on purpose. We knew that. I could almost not hear it.

Later she arranged for a client of hers to buy a goodly priced painting from us.

This was an episode of arrogance by me in the first place, which I got to understand I was doing, mostly in a few minutes. But I remember my reaction. Interesting woman with probably a tough life.
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robertmatheka
 
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Reply Tue 13 Aug, 2013 10:47 pm
@Linkat,
I think sometimes laugh at working area becomes very annoying. At that moment , politely ask them that you have something very important to do so either leave or be silent. Mention it twice and if they do not respond say," I’m sorry but I have things to do so please leave.
chai2
 
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Reply Wed 14 Aug, 2013 04:12 am
@ehBeth,
ehBeth wrote:

Linkat wrote:

You know what that means - yes we show the display - the lowest peions sit basically on a long table with one person next to them all down like an assembly line.


we've just started that at our office - we call it the sushi bar

I'm lucky - I have my own desk - and my nice new (as of this afternoon) desk seems to have been set up for a taller person. The desktop meets me nicely just below my armpits, so I'm typing level with my boobs. I know I'm going to enjoy that. Next to me in her halfcube is J - who is tall and has to recline in her chair to get close enough to her desk to use the keyboard.

oh happy days


I predict much money being spent (by the company) on accomodations, as this is going to lead to back/neck problems.
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Linkat
 
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Reply Wed 14 Aug, 2013 09:00 am
@ehBeth,
sushi bar - great description. I wonder if 3, 4, 5 years from now...there will be an increase in workplace violence. Then it is discovered that being on top of other people causes some sort of insanity. Hey - on the bright side all involved will get to sue their respective companies for the mental angiush forced upon them.
Linkat
 
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Reply Wed 14 Aug, 2013 09:25 am
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saab
 
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Reply Wed 14 Aug, 2013 12:41 pm
@Linkat,
You do have a problem in more than one way.

It is difficult to say something negative about how someone laughs or their voice.
Both are such a part of the personaility and also difficult to change. You really need a speach therapist to learn to speak differently or also laugh differently.
You can hardly walk up to a person and tell them "You have an awful laugh - ok if a pay a speach therapist to teach you how to laugh?"
Laughing is a thing we share when in good mood (at least that the way it should be) - that makes it even more difficult.
You better just say ssshhhh often.
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cicerone imposter
 
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Reply Wed 14 Aug, 2013 12:49 pm
@robertmatheka,
No worker should have the need to ask another employee to leave because they are causing a disturbance in the work place. A supervisor/manager has that responsibility.
mismi
 
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Reply Wed 14 Aug, 2013 01:15 pm
I wonder if you can blame it on the cubicles and not on any one person. Is there a way you can speak to your superior about the general noise issue? Maybe they can send out a memo that says due to the new Green office that loud noises and what could be considered distractions should be kept at a minimum or something like that.

That way it is no one person. At that point if she kept up the cackle maybe you could say, " I am having focus issues - yadda yadda yadda...."

Anyway - It's worth a shot. I CANNOT work with lots of random noise...I am very easily distracted. Smile Can be good and bad. Horrid in an office setting though.
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Linkat
 
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Reply Wed 14 Aug, 2013 01:15 pm
@cicerone imposter,
I am a manager - now that increases the dilemina huh? Although not her manager.
cicerone imposter
 
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Reply Wed 14 Aug, 2013 01:19 pm
@Linkat,
Do your job! LOL
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