@igm,
Quote:Thanks for your interesting comments. I still believe that one cannot create one's own philosophy without talking with another person who can be trusted to give good honest feedback.
Hmmm...if this is your experience, then this is right for you.
I'm sure that my parents, the church I went to, and the friends I had - all played a big part in early development. Later my jobs also played a part, and when I was about 32 I became frustrated with my perceived inability to acquire skills to the degree I wished. I read a few books, which resulted in no better acquisition of skills...knowledge doesn't equal skill, and besides, I disagreed with any number of things I read...
...so that lead to the question
'how do I develop the ability to develop skills in the way that I want to grow'. As no one I knew seemed to truly know the answer to this question, it was up to me to find out.
Since that point, I read something in the vicinity of 600 books, on varying topics (subconscious, habits, negotiations, conflict, handwriting analysis, emotions, awareness, self-deception, NLP, hypnosis, listening, questions, sales, etc as well as other unrelated subjects)...all of it I was interested in, and most of it I read with the
red font goal in mind. So with that goal in mind, sometimes I would just take one or two things away from an entire book. Sometimes I would set the information in a book aside until I came across enough other information for a pattern to emerge, and then I would integrate it.
One subject that I didn't have that red goal in mind - it just interested me was 'handwriting analysis' (which is a field of psychology, better known in Europe than the US or Australia). Oddly...this subject tied many other subjects together, and gave me an insight to a concept I haven't found anywhere else (explanation takes time, and isn't the subject of this topic, so I'll leave that one alone)...suffice it to say I found insight in an unusual subject.
...that's a long winded way of saying that, I can see the value in a sounding board (or many sounding boards), but many things present themselves as sounding boards anyway - the greatest being the experience of life itself. So where you don't find a specific sounding board, still go about developing.