@cstokes0716,
Ah, if you are happy with your husband, why on earth would you risk everything just because your daughters father makes you melt? We certainly don't have to follow our feelings into every nook and cranny.
Many married women in their 40's who married a 'struggling' husband when they in their 20's , wished they married someone a bit better off (because many don't want to work full time the rest of their life). That is to say - as a long term prospect, someone you love who is also financial, is probably better long term spousal material than someone you who 'makes you melt' but is poor....especially as you're already married to the first.
In the end, my major advice is 'always move towards what makes you long term happy' (I say 'long term happy' because some people mistake just 'happy' for short term 'fixes' that don't actually result in lasting happiness). For, if when you're old, you look back at your life and find your life has been unhappy... it is my belief that you'll have wasted much of your life (if you could have been happy). We are meant to find happiness - sometimes we just have to choose it.
(edit : none of this is telling you to choose one over the other - it's just my general beliefs about life, happiness, and what people truly need to make them happy)