@cicerone imposter,
I know you were being facetious about BillRM. I was as well.
But BillRM doesn't think most sexual assaults are assaults because he thinks women really "want it" or really aren't bothered by them.
He has no capacity for empathic identification with others who aren't exactly like him--he can't put himself in the place of another person, like blacks, or women, and understand what they are feeling, or what their perspective is like.
That's why he couldn't understand the protests in the black community when Zimmerman wasn't arrested, or their feeling that the questionable death of a an unarmed young black male, who had been racially profiled and staked before he was killed, was being ignored by the D.A. for racial reasons--even though the chief police investigator had recommended to the D,A. that the shooter be arrested and charged with manslaughter the night of the shooting--BillRM couldn't understand the feeling of outrage that this young black male shooting victim was being denied justice by the state.
That's why he can't understand what it might have been like for a barely 17 year old kid, just walking back from the store, to suddenly find himself stalked in the dark, by a "creepy" white man, for no apparent reason, and the fear that teen must have felt when this creep, who never identified himself, suddenly confronted him, and may have tried to keep him from getting away. The last thing his friend Rachel, who was on the phone with him, heard him say, was, "Get off of me," to Zimmerman.
That's why BillRM can't understand the profound sorrow and loss experienced by Martin's parents over the death of their child, particularly a child they feel was murdered, he's never been a parent, it's beyond his frame of reference, and he is unable to see anything except in terms of his own experience, and he has no capacity for empathic identification. And he can't understand their anger that people, like BillRM, have been trying to destroy their dead child's reputation and memory with all sorts of distortions, lies, and innuendos about him.
And BillRM, never having been a woman, thinks women enjoy all sorts of unwanted sexual contacts. He thinks they "want it" or "ask for it" and then lie about that afterward to falsely accuse an innocent male.
Frank and I have just been trying to get him to imagine what it's like to be in a woman's place--to have him be the recipient of a sexual assault.
He's too lacking in empathy to be able to do that.
Zimmerman he can identify with, because they have a lot in common--he can understand Zimmerman. Both have had domestic partners get restraining orders against them for domestic violence, both like to carry and live with guns, both have no compunctions about brazenly lying...
