Recently came onto a same sex friend

Welcome to the friendzone. It's not a fun place to be. All that I can say is that you're going to have to give that person A LOT more space to contemplate what kind of relationship you two have now and where it can or should go from here.

That means, no texting her even if your intentions are innocent and benign. Sad to say, the ball is in her court and she hasn't returned the volley quite yet.

The waiting can be quite difficult and frustrating, (saying this from recent experience myself). There isn't much that can be done for the immediate now. Patience is a necessary virtue/skill needed now.

Thanks so much for the input. I know it is going to be difficult but I must refrain from trying to contact her if I want any chance of keeping the friendship. I am sorry you have had the same experience but I hope things have worked out for the best.

I disagree. CALL her and apologize to her for your actions. Tell her you agree that she needs to get more sleep, not use drugs or alcohol and to take care of herself and you will be there as an old friend. That has not changed.

If she is interested in you romantically, then she will make a move. Until then, assume nothing.

Wait - Tsar hit on your friend? Or Tsar hit on one of his male friends? Whoa!

Thank you, another perspective, something for me to think about

I don't know why people who know they are sexually different insist on thinking that they are and so come right out and start talking and arguing and explaining themselves. It's the wrong way, the losing way, to go about it. "Coming on to her" you probably did something like say, "Do you like women?" Or "How 'bout a little action?" I never do this aggressive approach but instead try to be around, do things for, be friendly to, show and tell. It takes a long time, but as I only try to seduce those who are attractive to me and very interesting and friendly, I am losing nothing by spending time with them and if it turns out they are uninterested I don't even feel I have wasted my time. It takes me weeks "to come on to someone." I don't like rejection! It makes me feel bad. I let them see me nude and dressing--what better place than my bedroom for them to assess me? I allude "to magazines and articles I read," to gauge their reaction. Or I tell them little stories from my personal history to see what they think. Once I successfully ignited a relationship by confiding an obsession that began when I was a child. Seems she had the same obsession and our conversation took off from there... I never trust "coming on to someone" as a way of approaching them.

Just give her time....I have did this before a few times with my friends.....of course we were drinking at the time....but I have actually had bi sexual relationships with a cpl of my married friends....and we are still friends.....and I also have hit on a friend of mine and she just laughed it off. Hopefully she will get over it. GoodLuck!

You already have..

Actually no I haven't. As of Christmas time we have been speaking again on the phone, email and texting. We both figured life is too short to lose a friendship over something like this. I do appreciate everyone's views on this.

Romeo's only relationship of note is with imaginary characters. You can safely ignore anything he says regarding real people. He's a train wreck.

If a male friend of mine made a homosexual pass at me I'd avoid him from that second on..
Something like that happened in the past was when I used to chat to a near-neighbour whenever we bumped into each other in the street.
One day we were talking about militant gay activist troublemakers and to my surprise he said "we shouldn't knock homosexuality until we've tried it".
I never replied, I looked at my watch and said "Oh is that the time? Sorry I gotta get to the shops before they close, bye", and off I went.
Needless to say, if I see him in the street nowadays I do a U-turn or dodge down a side street..

Thanks, I think I will do just that