Love relation

Go to the police and have a restraining order placed against the exboyfriend.

But going to police will disturb mine and her careers and studies...

That doesn't make any sense. At all. You must have an either corrupt or highly inefficient police force to assume that.

It sounds like she is still in love with him and not really ready to completely commit to you and a future with you. That was her parents' idea that they break up.

I would back off and let her work out what she wishes.

okay I will sure try this...but do you have any other idea to sort out this situation more easily and completely.

I'm not clear if Tsar is kidding or not.

Yes you may be correct.but she doesnt want to talk with him.And i already told her if you are yet confused then try to convince your parents and I will go from your life.And she told " no i love you and now I cant leave you whether he come back or not."

Well, that's good then.

guys this is a serious **** in my life so please help me out...

I'm, an older woman in the US. I don't know where you live, in the US? in India? I don't know about your cultural mores re courting and marriage and the power of parents where you are. I don't know what your girl (girl? how old are you two?) is really feeling for her ex. People know love differently, and if she dearly loved him, that makes a difference in how soon she can really love another person. If she now loves you, that is, as I said, good.

What is the ex doing to interfere? If he is actually stalking her and she is in fear, then Tsar was likely serious, and a restraining order could be useful.

Other people will be along to read this and give opinions. A bit of added information from you could help.

Thanx osso, you are but actally making me more opstimistic... i am from south asia and nearer to India...and well you said she loved him moreover she now loves me but actually the problem was intercaste..his ex was lower in caste than her so her parent refuse him..but for me its nth like that.so at an instant what can i do ?to get my love?

It's historically hard to make someone love you, and she has already said she does. And it's famously easy to make someone not love you (thousands of ways); one of those is being too pushy, a mix of needy and controlling. Be clear that you are in love with her (you probably already have been) and then let it rest. Well, that's my opinion, not sure re your culture - pushy, needy and controlling is a no-no here. Enjoy each others company, talk, do things together, listen to her, and the same for her with you.

Thanx osso a very very thanx to you...sometyms i feel that her ex troubling her and sometimes i think she still loves him...if that so why she cant say to leave her??she told she loved him and as she knew that she had no life with him she left him..but again that person is troubling her...should i talk to her ex???

girls are always confused!!

Well, I wouldn't I don't think, but I don't really know any of you to figure out if that would be wise or foolish.

Anyways thanx osso... you help to solve my problems...thanx very much