@WBYeats,
They speak deliberately slower to [___] me.
WB, to illustrate that you believe what they are doing is not helpful, is condescending, is unneeded, is ..., you can/could put quotation marks around words to, in effect, illustrate their meaning is almost the opposite of the intended meaning.
They speak deliberately slower to "help" me.
They speak deliberately slower to "assist" me.
They speak deliberately slower to "teach" me.