The love of my life found me, 15 years later. I'm in Agony.

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He was my best friend. We worked togather 5 years. We slowly developed a very close relationship that slowly turned into love. He was married, we did nothing bad. We stopped being freinds to save his marriage, and lost touch. After the agony of love, but I never did anything wrong, I married my new close freind after 5 years. We divorced 5 years ago, and 2 years ago I remarried a nice guy, who I love, but not like my love for my old BFF.

We happend to find one another, rather on accident five days ago. We talked on the phone the next day. We have emailed once daily. This is totally agony for me. He loves me, and I love him. Deep and anguishing love. OMG, I so totally don't know what to do. I'm in complete agony. I'm so mad at him for showing up now. My husband is a boring nice guy. How could I do something like run away, but OMG how I want to. No love or pain was ever so great in my life.

Oh, and I found out his wife divorced him and he looked for me and could find me for two years before I married the first time. He's been looking for me 15 years, wanting to find me. I've looked for him too, but casually to avoid causing unwanted distress. What in the H*LL do I do??? I'm so lost, confused, sick, and broken hearted about this. I'm so mad at God about this. I am so in pain. I have never ever stopped loving him.

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@NiceLady,

Divorce your present husband. He deserves better than a woman who is in love with someone from 7 or more years ago.

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@NiceLady,

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I'm so mad at God about this. I am so in pain. I have never ever stopped loving him.

Why are you blaming God for your own failings? Take responsibility for your own actions.

If you never stopped loving him, why did you inflict this pain on the men that followed?

Why not seek out seek therapy and stop the marry-go-round? Why keep marrying men you don't love? Who is to say after you dispose of this hubby and you married this man, you'd still be happy after awhile?

With any sort of relationship, the bloom can fade off the rose with time. Mature, well-adjusted people try to figure out what they can do to salvage a troubled relationship instead of tossing them away like a used roll of toilet paper.

Suppose your present hubby saw this note online and figured out that it was you, how hurt would he be? Does he deserve this punishment? What did he do to you to deserve this cavalier treatment?

Stop this madness now and get professional help.

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Whoa . . . you need to back up.
WHY did his wife divorce him?

You really don't know anything about this guy and what he's been doing for the last 15 years.

You are in love with the PAST. You need to really find out the PRESENT man. (financial, children, what happened in the marriage,health, legal, etc.)

In the meantime, this is all very exciting, however your loving but boring husband is getting the brunt of your fantasy affair.

Tread carefully, dear. You could lose everything.

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What a drama queen! Oh, the Agony! The Pain of it all!!

I can't be bothered to even come up with a reply to this nonsense.

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@Mame,

But wait, omigod, my fantasy is HERE. Now what do I do?

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@NiceLady,

NiceLady,

Why did you come up with that user name? Because, you are cheating by emailing daily this man. Because, you did see this man whilst he was married even if you didn't have sex, I bet you kissed at least right?

Here is the agony... He was your best friend, you married your "new" close friend, but he wasn't the "best friend" so you divorced. So you just found some nice guy who you say you love but in another breathe call him boring and dreaming of running away.. But, alas, also your best friend's wife divorced him only a couple of years after. Did he take the next step with someone else? Or find out about you two...... cheater.

You were in-love with the idea of love. You are still in love with that idea.. Betcha if you two do hook up, it will eventually fall into a heep and you'll be looking for your third husband.

Leave the boring nice guy, he deserves to find real love not have married someone who just took someone....

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@ossobuco,

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But wait, omigod, my fantasy is HERE. Now what do I do?

Best to use your Medicaid money and see a good shrink.

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The love of my life found me, 15 years later. I'm in Agony.

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