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If you've been dating someone for 3 months and he calls you a friend to other people

 
 
Savings
 
Reply Sun 7 Apr, 2013 12:40 am
You're kissing and everything that couples do in private. But out in public you are his "friend". Also, he never takes you out on dates. Is he using me? Time to dump?
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roger
 
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Reply Sun 7 Apr, 2013 12:45 am
@Savings,
I couldn't say from here. Different people mean different things with words like friend. I wouldn't be inclined to dump someone for that, unless I were also thinking he were in something like a marriage relationship with someone else.

I think you will have to make the decision.
FOUND SOUL
 
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Reply Sun 7 Apr, 2013 01:43 am
@roger,
True...

Forgive me, I am going to assume you are young only because I can't picture an older woman saying "kissing and other things you do in private".. Rather, we have and do have sex and he comes over etc.... If I am wrong, sorry.

Also, sometimes "boys" are scared of introducing a "girlfriend" into a mix, if others are all still single. Can you tell us a bit more?

3 Months is not a long time but, I would want a date by then for sure, it doesn't have to be public/public but it sure does show someone has feelings doesn't it?

I would personally stop "and other things" allow the kissing and see if he nicks off or continues to see you Smile That's often a goood telling sign.
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jespah
 
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Reply Sun 7 Apr, 2013 07:09 am


Couldn't help to think of this song. If he won't call you a girlfriend in public, stop doing stuff in private.
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Mame
 
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Reply Sun 7 Apr, 2013 07:50 am
What's more important than labels (girlfriend vs friend) is how you guys are together. Concentrate on that.
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maxdancona
 
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Reply Sun 7 Apr, 2013 08:30 am
@Savings,
It seems like 95% of relationship issues posted here could be solved by the simple act of having a conversation. Why can't you just talk to this guy about how you feel and ask him where he is at?

Kissing is fun, but it doesn't replace communication.

I would ask him "where do you see our relationship?". I would tell him how I felt. I am guessing that you are expecting more than a friendship based on the physical part of your relationship. Just tell him that, and ask him where he is.

Then you don't have to guess.

Right now you are talking about this with a hundred random strangers on the internet who don't know him or you. You really need to be having a direct, honest conversation with him.




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