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Should i give up on her ?

 
 
karvind
 
Reply Tue 5 Mar, 2013 12:03 pm
Hello all , i'm having a problem. Yes , love problem. So here's my story. thanks for reading it and all answers are accepted. thanks Very Happy

So it started last year , on February 2012 i started texting this girl i know through my cousins. at that time , I've never seen her in real. only Facebook photos's . At first i had only a crush on her then i continued texting her everyday and around august , i fell in love with her. I thought she liked me too because she would ask me to call her and we would talk from 12-5 am and she will never say bye, we would talk until she fell asleep.And even when we're texting , she wont say bye. when i say bye she would do the sad face and ask why should i go and all. so i summed it all and thought she liked me too. so i confessed , through text. i know its a mistake. and yes , she rejected my confession. she said , " I dont know who i want , i have a lot of crushes". I respected her and we continued talking. I continued texting her everyday and in between that i would joke to her about me being her bf and she would alwyas reject it. And i have asked her out around 3 times, she told me that her parents are strict and wont let her go out with strangers easily. So i cant meet her. at all. and then she told me to get to know her in real more. then i told her it was her fault that she don't wanna come out and she said yes its my fault. and things were just going like that until December and i started to get fed up about all the shits. So i asked her for one final time , will she like me. and she said no but we can still be friends. i told her that she friend-zoned me and that i don't want and i cant just be her friend. i have a strong feelings on her. So we had a small argument and i stopped talking to her since december. She deleted me from facebook and unfollowed me from twitter, so i just left it like that. And then , this month , my cousin told me that she was talking to that girl about me and her and that she asked me why i stopped talking with her and i told her that i cant just be her friend. and then she told me , the girl i like told her that she "partially" likes me. and she also told her that she likes me but don't wanna date me. what was that supposed to mean? and then 2 weeks ago she added me back and sent me a message which i didn't reply. and then now , just few hours ago she sent me a message saying sorry about what happened between us and im giving up on trying to talk again with you , it seems like you don't want me in your life. and then BOOM! she deleted me again. my question here is , should i pick up the phone and call her? if yes what should i tell her? and , i still have a really strong feelings for her , what if she just wants me as a friend? should i accept it? that would be considered desperate right? please help me, in a really big dilemma :/
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jespah
 
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Reply Tue 5 Mar, 2013 12:17 pm
No, this is not a dilemma.

This girl has rather clearly told you that she is not interested in you romantically and, when you attempt to make contact again and take it too far, she deletes you from FB, etc. and ceases all contact. Would you like for her to block your # from her phone? Because that's next, if she hasn't already done so.

Your mistake was to continue with this nonsense long after she told you to stop. You were and are obsessed, and you were and are infatuated with pictures and text, and not much of a real person.

Here's a thought. Delete the old texts and delete her contact info, and go out and meet women. In your area, e. g. people who you can actually see face to face and not just text. And you'll find that real-live, breathing, in-person people, warts and all, are pretty much always better.
Ragman
 
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Reply Tue 5 Mar, 2013 12:18 pm
@karvind,
Time to move on. FWIW, Jespah and I agree.

This is just not going to work. There's plenty of other fish in the sea. Texting ..no matter how often..and even talking on the phone is not a replacement for in-person contact or dating. The waters here have been too muddied by now due to your obsession.

Learn from your mistake and don't do that (premature confession of love before you met eye-to-eye) with the next girl.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Tue 5 Mar, 2013 02:26 pm
.How old are you two?

Why do you think you can have a text-relationship?

Her parents won't let her date? move on . . .
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karvind
 
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Reply Wed 6 Mar, 2013 06:33 am
@jespah,
Hey thanks for your answer but its my fault. i confessed through text and she really cant come out. what if i start talking to her again and be friends and maybe start to really make an effort to see her ? maybe she will like me because she's 16 and im 18.
Ragman
 
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Reply Wed 6 Mar, 2013 06:55 am
@karvind,
Dude! It's over. Move on.
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jespah
 
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Reply Wed 6 Mar, 2013 06:55 am
@karvind,
How many different ways does this girl have to tell you that she's not interested before you start believing her?
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