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Sun 3 Feb, 2013 04:48 pm
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years, and we've been living together for about 8 months. We get along great, both love each other, and will be engaged (hopefully) within the next year. However our sex life is... plain- other times bad. He doesn't like to try new positions- he has two that are his favorites and that's all he ever wants. As far as oral sex goes, I give him blow jobs pretty consistently but the last time he's gone down on me was at least 6 months ago. I keep myself clean & shaven so I'm not sure what the problem is but anytime I bring it up he just says he doesn't like it. (I don't enjoy giving blow jobs but I do anyway because I know he likes them).
Sex is most of the time unsatisfying for me. It takes me awhile to climax and he finishes pretty quickly sometimes. He's usually tired afterwards and falls asleep- which leaves me laying there still turned on and unsatisfied. It not only makes me sexually frustrated but emotionally as well. I just want him to finish me off in some way. It just seems like he doesn't care about how I feel after sex.
Any tips on how to bring this up to him either directly/indirectly?
You need to get control of the lovemaking - because he just doesn't not get it.
Don't let him enter you until you are satisfied. Tell him you want him to see you climax and he will enjoy it. Then show him how to do that.
Then let him finish off.
Speak up. And don't even consider marrying him if he continues to be this way. It will be years of frustration ahead of you.
@PUNKEY,
PUNKEY wrote:
You need to get control of the lovemaking - because he just doesn't not get it.
Don't let him enter you until you are satisfied. Tell him you want him to see you climax and he will enjoy it. Then show him how to do that.
Then let him finish off.
Speak up. And don't even consider marrying him if he continues to be this way. It will be years of frustration ahead of you.
true nuff, but anyone who has been a doormat for this long is going to change? Really?
@englebird,
ive had same problem for years give it all and not get it back ive forgotten what it feels like to be ravished i cant see him changing you are not happy it will go on for years you may love him but thats not enough you have to talk to him can you live like that or not maybe you can show him but will it stay that way he may be stuck in his ways see how it goes.
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