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Do i admit to him, if so, how?Or what else do i do? suggestions?

 
 
Reply Sun 27 Jan, 2013 06:58 am
i go to the gym with my bestfriend bff , i invited the guy i like to go with her and i and he said he would go on that monday at 10:30 and then monday came and he texted "i cant come" and then i was like "ok tell me when you can go". DOUBTING HE WILL; he texted me tuesday that he will go and so we went but he brought his guy friend . great. its like i never went with him because they do weights and we do cardio, but anyways at the gym though he was mocking me because i was on the elliptical and i go really fast and he was imitating me and chuckling, but still like he didn't go with us. then the next day i went to the gym and guess who showed up on their own will; The guy i like with his friend LOL! and i was like omfg -tries not to notice them-. i saw him look my way though. anyways then i go to locker room and when i was walking out towards exit he was going opposite way and he smiled ^_^ i barely noticed though i thought the smile looked like a whatever smile, but then i see my bff jumping of joy; she seemed happier than me HAHA. also, my friend left early that day so i was alone a while and i was on the elliptical and he went on the treadmill next to me and i was just BLASTING my music because i panic. but the treadmill wasn't working and then he left :<. then on Thursday morning i wake up with 5 Facebook notifications, and in my head before i checked i was imagining them from the guy i like, and then there they were , 5 pictures "likes" from my crush, and they are like old pictures from August. i thought i was dreaming. in general days, i do catch him staring a bit but idk, i really don't want to put my hopes up.
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Reply Sun 27 Jan, 2013 10:09 am
@santypanties3,
You asked a guy to go to the gym. He (like most people) did not see this as anything special. He brought a friend with him to work out. Everybody worked out. This is still nothing special. He smiled at you (and perhaps smiled at 50 other people that day). Nice, but not necessarily evidence of anything. He liked 5 old pictures of you. No evidence of whatever else he might have liked on FB that day (he could have liked 500 pictures from 100 other women, for all we know).

Next time - be a LOT clearer in your communications. Say the following, "Steve (or whatever his name is), I'm going for coffee after the gym. Do you want to come along?"

And he says one of the following -
  • Yes
  • No
  • I'll see how tired I am.
  • No because I've got to get back to ___ but let's get coffee some other time.

If he brings a pal with him, then consider that he is not interested. If he does not, then have a lovely conversation and make sure to clearly ask, "Can I see you for dinner some time?" And he will say one of the following -
  • Yes
  • No, sorry, but I don't like you that way.
  • I can't because I'm on a diet (or some other reason for not specifically getting dinner) but let's do ___ instead.

The coffee is the preliminary to a date. It can be a date but it is not 100% clear (but it's a way to bring things up a small level). Dinner is a date, and it is clear (and yes, you can ask him). Him bringing a pal to coffee means he is likely not seeing you as date material. You ask for coffee rather than dinner first because it is easier for everyone to graciously back out of it. Understand?
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Reply Sun 27 Jan, 2013 02:05 pm
When you stop texting, Facebooking, and get off the machines at the gym, maybe you can figure this out.

Can you actually speak to him and ask him out the next time you see him?
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