I'm so sorry Clary. Depression is a devestaing illness for the one suffering and for all who are close to him. My thoughts are with you.
Oh Clary. I am so so sorry. You will be in my thoughts, also. Please take care.
You have sustained me well through this first 24 hours of numbness. Because of the depression, in a way I have already done a lot of grieving for the man I knew and loved for 28 years before the Black Dog hit him so hard. I am trying to recapture the old memories and put away the hard and difficult times that we'd had recently. As Osso put it so well: sad memories crowd good ones and sweet ones need room to come through. The man who was there at the birth of our children and had such joy in bringing them up with me - that is who I want to remember. Thank you all again for your loving thoughts.
Thank you, osso, for letting us know. I really appreciated it.
You're welcome, friends of Clary, but I only went a page or two back on the thread, missed pming fealola, for example.
I was flailing.
I saw your comment on another thread re honouring his choice, Clary, and I see that makes complete sense. I hadn't gotten to that view myself until I read your saying it, and it fits.
You are good and brave and we love you.
Osso, it's okay. A2K is like a small town, really. I found out on another thread too. Peace be with you all.
It was Piffka who mentioned honouring his choice, and iit really seemed to make sense to me. Thanks Piffka for that way of expressing what I think I was already doing!
I'm glad, Clare, if anything I said made sense. Hope you're doing OK and staying positive.
Holding good thoughts for you.
Love, P
Condolences from me, feeling very glum at the news.
Things can seem very important in life, then something else happens to give a different perspective.
Very sorry, and with best wishes for the future, McT
Clary, my friend. You are such a warm and wonderful person. I know exactly what you must be experiencing, because I have been down that road. Thinking of you, my dear.
Thanks to McTag for letting me know.
Checking in on Sunday morning. Joining with Clary's friends in a cup of tea, a thought for Clary and her sons, and a hug for our friend.
So glad you're trying to stay positive, Clary. You go through so many emotions at a time like this. I'm so glad you can remember Simon in the positive light. He is not the man that depression took. Hold on to those wonderful memories you have of him & you'll remember him as he really is.
Love and hugs. - dev
It's Monday here & I assume, in Hong Hong. All the very best for the flight home today, Clary. My thoughts will be with you.
Early morning in Hong Kong, and I have a lot to do in a practical way today. The boys are coping wonderfully, and have taken the burden of arrangements off my shoulders. There will be a small family funeral this week and a memorial service in June, after the boys have finished their crucial university exams (Bruno starts his finals at Oxford in about 4 weeks from now, but the university has been extremely good and helpful)
Thank you again my friends.
That's good, Clare. I'm so relieved that you won't have to do all this straight after returning home. And I'm so impressed with your boys! All the very, very best to you.
Love,
Olga
Clary, the plan of a memorial service, a bit later in the year is a good idea. Hopefully, by then, this
Quote:The man who was there at the birth of our children and had such joy in bringing them up with me - that is who I want to remember.
will be much clearer for you.
Have a safe journey home.
Yes, I hope so. I'm inviting everyone to share a memory of Simon or a piece of writing with us - we did this at my mother's 'celebration of life' and it was wonderful.
Thinking of you too Clary, and your boys.
Very good way to handle it, Clary! I know it's still hard, though. Wishing you a good trip and a safe one. Check in when you can.
