New relationship

I'm trying to figure out what the problem is.

He was up front with you about how busy he is. He calls and texts regularly. He is making an effort to clear some projects so that he can see you more often. He takes an interest in your family and in your life.

Are you on some sort of a quickie timetable, where you have four months to live and he's used up three of them by being busy (er, you do realize that many successful business people are busy by definition - it's how they get and stay successful)?

I would wait and, frankly, I don't even see anything you're waiting for. For what? 24/7 contact? Sex on demand? You seem to have all of this guy's free time. There just isn't a lot of it - and he has been honest with you about that.

sarcasm/Oh yeah, run for the hills! Honesty, success and being as attentive as he can with limited time, er, yeah, those aren't worth hanging around for./sarcasm

Thankyou Jespah..my gut feeling says he's worth it, after all newly divorced after a 21 yr.marriage seems he's pretty dedicated to both relationships and his work, I 've gotten advice only from cheated on hurt women maybe that is the problem huh. Thankyou again I appreciate your input oh and also I should mention the intimate part is wonnnnderful, I'll just keep busier and be patient.

Well, he SAYS he's going to make more time for you -- so give him the benefit of the doubt and give him some time. BUT make it a time frame for you. - say 6 months for him to turn himself around from a workaholic to someone who has a social life and can pay attention to a partner.

I have a feeling this all had something to do with his marriage. He either immersed himself in his work, due to a bad marriage OR he worked so much that he created a bad marriage. Find out which is which.

That's a point I hadn't considered.

It's also possible the guy is holding back a bit as he's still healing from the end of his marriage.

I was married to a workaholic and would never do that again. Most of our holidays centered around where his conference or research was, he marked papers, reviewed journal articles etc., at home, many of our friends were work-related and they would talk shop for hours... and I could go on and on. He is a lovely man, but too dedicated to his career. I felt quite alone most of the time as I had to find friends to do things with (theatre, etc). I'm not whining (I did get out), just saying you need to think more than twice about what you're hooking up with.