Fri 18 Jan, 2013 08:24 pm
I came home early last week and saw my husband in bed with my friend. I was so pissed but I stood there motionless as he fucked her and eventually came inside of her with a loud moaning orgasm. She was moaning too and told him she was cumming just before he did. I left so they didn't see me. I am ashamed, pissed, mad and a little sexually turned on as I replay the erotic scene over in my head. I don't know what to do. I don't know if it is because he slept with another woman, because she was my friend or because he has never fucked me like he was did her and I have never had an orgasm during sex. I am confused and horny all of the time. Andy Suggestions!
WOW what a thing to come home to and then have to emotionally deal with, you can always rely on your nearest and dearest to make things a little more complicated.
You have already shown great strength in having not burst into the room, busting them both and generally going mad. Assuming that you still haven't confronted either of them again every time you see them or don't see them you will be thinking about it.
There is no real easy solution, you have to make a decision on your terms.
Confronting them individually, or leaving them to continue under your nose. In my opinion that will only drive you insane, every time you leave the house knowing where they are or if there ******* in your bed. To add insult to injury he seems to be giving it better to her than he does to you.
Seeing someone else having sex and coming hard is going to make you turned on, its the equivalent to real life porn. 86% of woman are turned on by visual and audible factors without even realising it. So this isn't an unusual occurrence.
If you still want to be with your husband I would recommend confronting him so he knows that it cant continue, unless your feeling that you want to explore the idea of open relationship. From my experience it does take a certain type of person to be able to successfully have one of these relationships.
If he has never made you orgasm or fucked you like that chances are he is a selfish lover. Or a really bad one. I always ensure my partner gets what they want.
Wishing you all the best x