@Mame,
edgar/mame
Where is it indicating anywhere that anything was mutual?
Any sexual comments made at we can read were totally from the dentist.
Remove the temptation and you don't have a problem?
Then perhaps the dentist should have a lobotomy so he no longer has tempting thoughts. It's his thoughts that were tempting him, and apparantly he can't control them.
If you're a pickpocket, let's cut off both your hands so you can't be tempted to steal.
As far a her dress, Ms Nelson states.....“I wore a long-sleeve or short-sleeve T-shirt and I wore scrubs,” Nelson said, adding that she’s “happily married.”
That's what dental hygenists wear on the job.....T-shirts and/or scrubs. If one person who wears scrubs runs 20 miles a week and has a healthy life style, it's a safe bet they are going to look "better" than someone who is medically overweight, doesn't exercise or eat right.
If she looked good in her scrubs because she is healthy, is she to be punished because she takes care of herself?
The dentist was the one who made comments about the bulges in his pants, questioned her about her orgasms, and
"he quipped about her irregular sex life, saying it was “like having a Lamborghini in the garage and never driving it.”
In the other thread, the linked article states
Six months before Nelson was fired, she and her boss began exchanging text messages about work and personal matters, such as updates about each of their children's activities, the justices wrote.
The messages were mostly mundane, but Nelson recalled one text she received from her boss asking "how often she experienced an orgasm."
Nelson did not respond to the text and never indicated that she was uncomfortable with Knight's question, according to court documents.
Personal matters such as their children's activities.
In my opinion, where it says Nelson did not respond to the orgasm text it might better read "BUT" never indicated she was uncomfortable, not "and" never indicated she was uncomfortable.
From what is presented, which is all we can know, the sexual comments were all on the part of the employer.
It's unfortunate Ms. Nelson did not immediately say she was uncomfortable with him, and in a perfect world she would have. She honestly should have told him, even once she was uncomfortable, and it would have made all the difference in the world to this case.
I don't see anything anywhere that indicates anything was mutual.
In a perfectly rational world, we would all constantly be on our toes, ready to tell someone when they were stepping over a boundary. We would always be on the ready alert when someone makes a comment, regardless of whatever else we were doing/thinking at that moment.
She was wrong for not telling him upfront to stop. No excuse for that. However, I know that people simply don't do that every time they feel offended. In fact, in normal interactions, it's wise not to jump on every thing that's said to us that we don't agree with.
It's nice to think that someone would immediately say "don't say that", it's another thing living in the real world working side by side with someone that might be in her mind maybe weird and inappropriate, but no real danger.
She may have been apprehensive about saying something, not wanting to offend, afraid for her job, thinking it might just stir the pot more, that it would get the wife involved (too late), any number of reasons.
Of course there's no evidence for this, but neither is there any information available from here that indicates she did anything to encourage him with words/actions of her own.
If I'm missing something somewhere that indicates she encouraged him, or contributed to inappropriate conversations, please point it out.
He was her employer, in a position of power.
That last sentence reminds me of someone who used to post here. He featured himself to be the savior of abused women, birds with broken wings. Yet, in one thread he openly commented how when he was moving around the kitchen at his business, he sometimes rubbed "accidently" up against their boobs, and he apparently thought this was pretty cool, since it was his belief that maybe they were standing in such a way to allow this to happen, and in any event, they never complained. This was all ok of course because they were all over 18, and hey, they never complained.
He became enraged when I said that was pretty gross, which I still believe it is. But, he was in a position of power, just like this dentist.
I think this dentist is gross, knew he was being inappropriate, and don't see anything anywhere that indicates Ms. Nelson was participating, but rather, just letting things slide, which, in hindsight she shouldn't have.
