Sending flowers to say "I'm Sorry" ?

I was okay with the flowers right up until your last sentence.

Since you aren't really friends/close I think it would feel a bit weird.

Maybe try a note instead. And a real note. Not a text, and not an email. As in you, purchase a pretty card and you write that you're sorry and you hope that the two of you can get off onto a better foot. The new year is coming, and you'd like to start fresh.

You don't need to snail mail this. More like, you see her and you hand it to her.

In my opinion, if you "both" met at the wrong points in your life at the beginning of November, then you "still" are at the wrong points of your life now at the end of November.

Obviously there are alot of issues on hand for you at present, family, job, maybe even past baggage who knows but she knows it's there and I suspect this is what caused the ending of the beginning between you two or else she wouldn't have texted that comment of "hope things are getting better".

A few weeks is nothing. The fact that you still see her out and about, the fact you are stubborn is the reason you want to do something, as you don't like the tension however, your focusing on the wrong things. You need to sort out the problems you are facing so that there is no tension because then, you can get rid of the monkeys on your back, feel less stressed and actually smile at her. Which can lead to further conversation at that point including "yes, things are now looking up".. Who knows what may happen from there.

Give it a little time and concentrate on your issues at hand... then approach her and tell her face to face, "you are sorry".

FOUND SOUL:

I didn't just meet her this month.. I met her a few months ago and that's when I was having my issues. It just escalated end of Oct/Nov... The majority of my issues I was dealing with, I am no longer... And I have no expectations of anything happening anytime soon with her, but at least she will know I am no longer upset with her...

I sent her flowers and she got them today.. She sent me a text saying "So that was very unnecessary, but nice. Thank you they are really pretty"

I feel a huge weight lifted and I feel good

This seems to be the place to start. Get over the pride, send the text, apologize for the long silence, say that things are on a more even keel now.

Flowers are ratcheting things up beyond what the situation calls for IMO. It's also a way to be a little grandiose and sidestep the pride issue. I think it's better to just meet the pride issue head-on and keep the scale reasonable.

You have to love the internet as you can only read what someone writes

I'm pleased that the issues have passed to a good degree maybe that is why you felt you have been stubborn and gave in and sent the flowers anyway.

Seems like a good response and the main thing is you feel great and at peace now with it all.

Good for you. And, best wishes.

So what happens the next time you have "difficulty" in your life? How will you handle it?

Best to deal with decreasing that pride-drive and your reactions, rather than trying to make up with someone who got in the way at a difficult time in your life.