Need female advice please on something...

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I'm male, 35yrs old and have a long term girlfriend that I, all things planned, will marry.

Ok, so here's my issue which I would really like some female opinions /advice on. I find it a huge turn on when with girls knowing about their ex partners and especially how they have a bigger penis than me and are better in bed etc. I have no idea where this has come from and can't pin point a time where I started feeling turned on by this. But the past few girlfriends I have had I have tried to get them to tell me about their exs. I've never told any of them that this sort of thing turns me on (as, I kinda know it's probably not a turn on for them / most girls? and would have thought they wouldn't really want to get involved in anything that they would see as hurting my feelings - although it doesn't). I just want to know, if any other girls have had boyfriends like this or been into this sort of humiliation type thing? I don't have a big penis, however I'm aware it's not really small. I am 5.5" long and around 4.5" in circumfrence. So I guess around average in length and possibly just under average in girth, but it still turns me on girls saying I am small etc. I have not enquired about any of my current girlfriends partners as things are more serious with her. I would like to know though but am scared of freaking her out. Any advice from females on this please?

Thanks in advance Smile

James x

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@James Turner,

imagine your ectasy upon her

saying,"is it in yet"

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@laughoutlood,

lol, yeah..

I am looking for some serious replies from girls on this though Smile

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@James Turner,

There are lots of men out there who like the idea of another man pleasuring their girlfriend better than they can either with a bigger willy or with better sex. Most of these men eventually try out threesomes or like to watch their wife with another man. If the idea of her exs turns you on maybe you should watch some threesome porn or some cuckold porn and see if you like it. Don't be ashamed about it - lots of men are into it and it doesn't mean you love your girlfriend any less.

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@santasocks123 ,

hey, yeah thanks, I've seen that sort of porn.. and not ashamed etc but just don't think she will be into it at all Sad

...plus if I ask, and she's not.. well then it's going to be awkward lol

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@James Turner,

Well you know her so I guess you would know, but you maybe suprised by how many women fantasise about the idea of having two guys fondling and pleasing them. You could start off my saying that you and another guy would just massage her everywhere and not do anything sexual and see if she likes that and if your comfortable with it. Then if you are both happy another time you can take it futher.

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@santasocks123 ,

yeah but this is a serious relationship.. like.. someone i am going to marry, i can't really be messing about with stuff. Every other aspect of sex is great, so i dunno if its just best not to mention this stuff?

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@James Turner,

Having a long-term, satisfying relationship means sharing a lot of things. But you don't necessarily have to share everything. Will you remain satisfied in your sex life if you keep this from her? Only you - and time - will tell.

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@jespah,

Thanks.. I guess I will but would like to share everything if possible. Like I said though, once I tell her she may be freaked out or think it's ridiculous etc. Is there anything I could say to see if she would be up for this sort of thing without actually saying it all? you know, like.. testing the water so to speak?

Any girls with actual experience of this?

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@James Turner,

Your what's wrong with America. Afraid to stand up for yourself, and would rather be humiliated. A woman wants a man. Not some pansy who prefers to be stepped on. You might as well just have her go make money as a hooker and you watch. That would help fulfill you need to know she is getting better sex and dick from others.

She should know how weak and pathetic you are so she can find a man to take care and protect her. Not some weirdo who wants to see her taken by a real man. If you love her spare her the anguish and resentment she will eventually have when she finds out how worthless of a man you really are. Her father and brothers need to beat the crap out of you just for good measure.

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@Bustyournut,

lol. Firstly, I'm not American. Secondly, you have some real anger issues there. I wonder how bad my life would have to be to get that angry over another persons fantasy. I would try and explain, however something tells me you're not quite bright enough to understand.

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@James Turner,

I completely disagree. If my boyfriend told me that he wanted to pleasure me to the max with two guys massaging me and kissing me and saying nice things to me, I would not be offended. It's hot!

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@James Turner,

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Firstly, I'm not American. Secondly, you have some real anger issues there.

Whew, thank god! Figured you were some weirdo from San Francisco. I don't have any anger issues. I could careless if you like to sew your balls to your butt cheeks. Whatever trips your trigger. Your not man enough to talk to your own GF about your fantasies but seek advice from strangers. Rolling Eyes

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@Bustyournut,

No anger issues hey? Hmm looking at your posts on here proves otherwise. Or are you the only person allowed to judge people on here by their posts? Anger issues and denial. Who says I am not going to talk to her about it? I came on here for advice to see if anyone else has a similar thing. Some people research / think before they speak. Unlike some others (now let me think who I could be referring to?), who simply blurt out the first thing that pops into their pea sized brains, making them look a bit silly. Anyway, thanks for your 'advice'. Now run along.

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@James Turner,

Hi I'm female, I'd say just say a little bit to her at a time see how she reacts before you take it further, but the longer you're in a relationship together the more confident you'll feel talking about stuff, I wouldn't involve another person unless youre both 100% , she might also have fantasies she's shy to tell you about, ask her see if there are things you can both enjoy, you can have fantasies tho you keep to yourself , good luck x

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I would discourage you from seeking details about her past sex life.

It really shows how insecure you are. That gets really boring in the long run.

Instead, watch some porn together and talk about all those people and their comparisons.

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