Taking a break in the relationship?

Hey. Thanks for clicking on my question. My girlfriend (19) and I (20) go to the same college and have been dating for 9 months.

Over the last week we had some arguments and issues. Main reason for them is that she wasn't putting in as much effort in the relationship as I was. She was also forgetful of our plans. It made me unhappy I was the only one giving her gifts, planning surprise dates etc etc. She said she didn't want to see me suffer because of the things she doesn't do and isn't sure if she can be that type of girl for me even though she's trying hard.

Side info: I was her first boyfriend and took her virginity. She doesn't have any experience in relationships and is used to being selfish only looking after herself. While I am more selfless and try a lot to make her the happiest. I've also dated more.

On Sunday (the 14th) morning when I last saw her after we were discussing the relationship she said she'll text me later. She never did. I didn't hear from her at all for 48 hours. Then, her friend messaged me the other day saying stuff like "You guys should take a break. Focus on yourself, love yourself, improve yourself that's what she's doing. Give her time to think about this. Be positive not negative. Go home after classes cause if you stay on campus you'll think about her and that's not good cuz if you guys are gonna break up you'll have to eventually get over her. it's good you're giving her space" Clearly they have discussed the issue and I want to have a feel what my girlfriend is thinking/planning based on what her friend told me.

I am greatly upset my girlfriend didn't tell me this in my face or at least text me. But used her friend as a secretary to tell me what she wants.

Based on that information what do you think is happening/will happen? It's the 4th day since we don't talk and I have not seen her around campus or heard from her at all. I really wonder what's going on through her mind. What should I do? On the 21st is our 10 month anniversary. If she doesn't talk to me then is the relationship considered over? Unless she wants to be back together but really needs even more time than that. Or is this a strategy for her to break up easier? Cause she's a coward and feels awkward doing it right away and face to face?

P.S. Her facebook profile picture is still one of us together. And her relationship status hasn't changed