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Sun 23 Sep, 2012 07:05 am
Hi everyone,
Me and my girlfriend (aged 18-19) love each other a lot, but we have a problem while trying to have sex for the first time. We really want to do it, she gets wet, but nothing happens when I try to come in. She tells that the vagina is too tight, it hurts and penis slips out. We tried that for five nights, but had no success at all. Lube also does not seem to help. Please gives us constructive advice as we become very disappointed every time and another becomes even more difficult and mechanical as well, causing no pleasure. We try oral sex and it is great, although she does not want to try to do it using a finger. Do not recommend going to psychologist or something as we will feel awkward there because of our age and the fact that we study in foreign country.
Thanks in advance.
She is just not ready for intercourse.
Is she a virgin?
Is there a religious or cultural reason she may not want or can't do actual intercourse? If so, you must respect that and stick to heavy petting.
Ask her about her feeling about pre-marital intercourse.
@PUNKEY,
Yes, she's a virgin. No, there is no such reasons, it is just because she physically cannot do it, the vagina seems too tight and penis slips out. It also hurts for her as well.
@Randomrandom,
You have to take advise from doctor. And also take counselling from sexologist.
Has she seen a Dr.?
She may have this condition:
http://www.vaginismus.com/faqs/vaginismus-questions/what-is-vaginismusSrHSG
If she has had a pelvic exam and everything is OK, then it is psychological. For some reason, she may be afraid of the actual act of intercourse.
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