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Mental Decline & Dependency/Coping With Aging Loved Ones

 
 
Noddy24
 
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Reply Sun 10 Feb, 2008 07:32 am
Thanks, all.

I lost it last night after the dog had been whimpering for 25 minutes and Mr. Noddy kept telling her that he'd put her out when the show was over.
(Mr. Noddy watches television with headphones and makes very loud announcements so that he can hear himself).

Honestly, there are days when I feel as though I'm living with a 13-year old, flexing wings of independence.

My innards are a bit more settled this morning. Unfortunately, talking Dutchy, "It makes down white." Snow is great for the ski slopes, but I'm going to have to convince Mr. Noddy to go for the dog's meds and bring the newspapers back from the bottom of the steep, snow-covered driveway.
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Tomkitten
 
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Reply Sun 10 Feb, 2008 09:05 am
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I'm going to have to convince Mr. Noddy to go for the dog's meds and bring the newspapers back from the bottom of the steep, snow-covered driveway.


Good luck, Noddy, if you haven't yet succeeded, and mazeltov if you have.

Let us know!
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Sun 10 Feb, 2008 10:33 am
TomKitten--

Aren't the lingering effects of life-saving medical procedures maddening? Complaining seems a bit churlish, but sometimes churlishness is indicated.

Mr. Noddy is thinking about the newspapers. The vet is less certain, but Iffy has glucosamine through Wednesday. I'm not all that sure that glucosamine really works, but this is a beloved dog and I know how arthritis feels.

I've already skimmed the NYT's on-line. Waiting for the newspapers doesn't isolate me from the Pulse of the Nation.

How is your reshelving project coming? Has the smell of paint dissipated?
Are people still giving you sage advice? Are you keeping your serenity despite the sage advice?

Hold your dominion.
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Tomkitten
 
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Reply Sun 10 Feb, 2008 11:07 am
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How is your reshelving project coming? Has the smell of paint dissipated? Are people still giving you sage advice? Are you keeping your serenity despite the sage advice?


Well, I've given away enough books to make a positive difference on the shelves; not so much need for double shelving, thank God. The reference books are mostly back, though not in the original order, but still clumped together, at least. I'm trying to make my art supplies more orderly and accessible, and to tell the truth this has come before getting the books properly arranged.

The smell of paint is just about gone, although people coming in from the hall sometimes sniff a little.

As for sage advice, that seems to have dissipated along with the smell of paint, but I'm still getting condolences from people I meet in the public areas. That too will dissipate eventually. I had a long phone call from the wife of an old friend of Bob's - he knew the couple long before he knew me - and I hope to keep in touch with her, to learn anything and everything she can tell me about him. She lost her husband a couple of years ago to brain cancer, just awful.

Right now I'm making the final selection of poems to read at my Christopher Robin Orgy on the 19th, and I've begun putting in the little notes and comments, memories and feelings that occur to me while doing this. Like the one about being eaten by bears if you step on the lines of the sidewalk: it makes me wonder if this is peculiar to English-speaking children, or is some form of the superstition common in other countries. We always said "Step on a crack break your mother's back", but the idea is still there. Anyway, this is part of the fun of doing these readings.
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Sun 10 Feb, 2008 12:54 pm
I read the memoirs of Christopher Robin Milne. He felt his parents--particularly his father--exploited his childish pretend games. Still, he chose to run a bookstore...I think in a seaside town, although I read that book years ago.

Organizing your painting equipment makes perfect sense. After all, extra steps get in the way of The Creative Urge.

Brain cancer is a very ugly death. A beloved cousin of mine died of brain cancer two years ago. Her death was definitely in the "blessed relief" column. She was 61 years old.

Mr. Noddy went down for the newspapers. He left five minutes ago for the Vet's. Four minutes ago a very fine snow started falling sideways. At least he has his cell phone with him.

I'm working up to a Good Read.
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Tomkitten
 
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Reply Sun 10 Feb, 2008 04:09 pm
Mental Decline & Dependency/Coping With Aging Loved Ones
One of our residents was a roommate of Christopher Robin Milne in boarding school. I keep being told that I must mention him at the Poetry Reading, but (a) I'm not sure who he is; I'll have to find out, and (b) I'd better make sure he doesn't mind being singled out for mention in public.
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Tomkitten
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2008 08:47 am
Mental Decline & Dependency/Coping With Aging Loved Ones
Walter - Are you still disporting yourself in the warm? Where I am it was -11 Celsius at 8:30 this morning. Yuck!

Noddy - How are you doing? Is 12F normal for your location? (It sounds much worse if you call it -11C, I think.)
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2008 09:49 am
Tomkitten--

Minus 12F with windchill factored in.

The furnace has up and quit. The repair person is coming--and the furnace is covered with a service contract.

The furnace could have up and quit in the middle of the night. Cold is much colder when it is dark.

The wind could have taken out the power lines. Cold is much colder without heat, plumbing and electricity.

My warm jeans are a bit too large in both the waist and hips and a leather belt just doesn't hold them up properly. All of the rope and clothesline are out in Mr. Noddy's shop.

Mr. Noddy is finding substitutes. The very idea of the dog's leash has the dog upset. The idea of cutting some of his valuable wire has Mr. Noddy upset. Wearing a wire belt nine feet long doesn't please me.

I'll keep you posted.
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ossobuco
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2008 10:50 am
Valuable wire sounds good to me....
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JPB
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2008 11:21 am
Oh my... no heat and falling down jeans doesn't sound like much of an adventure. I hope your repair guy arrives sooner than later!
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2008 12:24 pm
Jeans problem is solved--not with a piece of the 100 feet of clothesline I'd wanted to store inside (he can't find that) but with a ratty old jump rope.

The Knight in Shining Armor from the oil company is here now. Evidently the problem is that for the last oil delivery we were not given "blend" and hot shot was not added to the tank.

I noticed on the last oil bill we were not given "blend" and hot shot was not added. I nagged and nagged, but Mr. Noddy felt that extra hot shot (he had several cans stored away) was not necessary.

We've had this problem before with the oil line freezing.

The service contract doesn't cover the oil tank. However in the past Mr. Noddy has argued and won that company error shouldn't cost us money.

Then he crows for weeks.

Meanwhile, I'm cold--unnecessarily cold--and angry.
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JPB
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2008 12:38 pm
I don't wonder!
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2008 01:16 pm
First Mr. Noddy tried to say that I never called the Hot Shot/blend problems to his attention.

I refused to cooperate with that rosy view.

Now Mr. Noddy says it is not his fault because the oil company should have added the Hot Shot.

Besides, he had only one can left.

Ordinarily, I'm one for letting bygones be bygones. Nonetheless when it comes to Hot Shot in the Oil Tank, I'm going to crank up the nagging to Really Nasty Nagging. I might even buy three cans of Hot Shot, all for me.

Faulty memory....errors in judgement....

The temperature in the house is now 63 degrees. I'll stop whining at 68 degrees--maybe 69.
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Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2008 02:05 pm
I'm left the warm sun today - and arrived in sunny, but much colder Westphalia two hours ago.


Well, while mother told Mrs Walter (and everyone else) that I would bring her back tomorrow (= not only in her house, but in the town, too :wink: ), we got on Saturday last week a letter from my sister: she doesn't want to have any contact with us anymore because we have been quote bad end of quote.
The only contact she wishes was if aunt and/or mother moved to some other place, were seriously ill or had died.

While this letter spoiled Mrs Walter's weekend (she didn't tell about when we phoned) a bit (until she laughed with some friends about it), I'm quite pleased that this problem is solved so easily.
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JPB
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2008 02:06 pm
As in, up to 63 degrees and the furnace is running or down to 63 degrees and still dropping?
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Walter Hinteler
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2008 02:37 pm
As 67°F in Cannes yesterday ...


http://i25.tinypic.com/kccsxt.jpg

... and only 60°F here today.
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hamburger
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2008 02:48 pm
this is for LETTY and anyone else who needs a little warm-up :wink:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=Bzewk-FMgS0&feature=related
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Tomkitten
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2008 03:10 pm
Mental decline
Noddy - I was going to suggest Gorilla Glue, but that might have the side effect of being unable to take the jeans off...

Walter -
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I'm quite pleased that this problem is solved so easily.
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I wouldn't hold my breath, if I were you...
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2008 03:13 pm
Walter--

She's not speaking to you, just commanding you?

Your sister is a woman of great flexibility.

JPB--

Sixty-three and rising. It is 70 degrees now, but I was chilled to the bone and the cold that seemed a possibility this morning is setting up housekeeping.

Sneezing is better than up-chucking. Sneezing is better than up-chucking.
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ossobuco
 
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Reply Mon 11 Feb, 2008 04:34 pm
Geez, Noddy. Hands you a tissue...



Walter, has your sister always been this way or is she, uh, a little bit mentally losing it?
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